2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I will return to the analysis of the situation that happened not so long ago in Ufa, in which three police officers committed a gang rape of an interrogator while intoxicated.
Whether it was violence or provocation is determined by the investigative expertise. The fact is that the police officers discredited themselves by revealing a weakness for group sex, which has a sadomasochistic basis.
However, in this article I would like to pay attention to the role played by the victim.
We do not know all the details of the incident, so the article is purely hypothetical.
In this situation, there are sadists - police officers who initiated the orgy, and a masochist - a girl interrogator.
Let us investigate the psychology of a masochistic personality, which often acts on an unconscious level, not even on the example of an interrogator, but on the example of any other woman with masochistic inclinations.
Patterns of masochistic behavior are formed in a family where a child may have been morally, physically, or sexually abused, or when he received the parent's attention by getting into some kind of trouble. As a result, he develops a psychological defense - the sexualization of violence. Self-abuse is perceived as a perverse form of receiving love, and sexualization allows you to minimize the traumatic experience of violence, even turning it into sexually attractive.
In the victim's fantasies, the rapist is endowed with the role of a parent who dominates her, taking full responsibility for what has happened upon herself, while the victim shifts (externalizes) his feelings of badness and guilt into the rapist - "now I'm not bad, now you're bad." From this awareness, the victim can receive a share of sadistic pleasure.
Reik (1941) explored several dimensions of masochistic response:
1. provocation; 2. appeasement (“I am already suffering, so please refrain from additional punishment”); 3. Exhibitionism (“Pay attention: it hurts”); 4. avoidance of guilt (“Look what you made me do!”).
The psychological defense of the masochist in the form of an outward reaction is in the nature of an obsessive repetition. That is, the victim repeats situations in which someone in power acts as an aggressor who makes her suffer.
As a result, she gains imaginary control over her abuser, hoping that the rest of the time he will be haunted by thoughts of the perfect violence.
Stockholm Syndrome confirms the formation of a connecting erotic thread between the aggressor and his victim.
The victim loves the rapist, feeling his complete power over himself, and the rapist loves the victim, because enjoys demonstrating her dependence and submission. Thus, for a certain period of time, the aggressor and the victim are in a codependent relationship.
After the violence has taken place, the victim despises and castigates the aggressor. However, then the feeling of her own guilt returns to her again and she begins to look for an excuse for the offender or starts looking for a new aggressor in order to be punished.
Outside of provocation, the masochistic personality experiences periods of dreary tension that requires relaxation.
A masochist who sexualizes violence against himself is surprisingly drawn into various situations of violence.
It all starts with a sadistic family, in which a person becomes a victim of violence or incest, then, realizing a defeatist scenario, he enters into a relationship with an abuser lover, is subjected to various attacks, etc. The victim's behavioral patterns are often parasuicidal in nature.
In sex, the masochistic personality can also be aroused by the dependent role, fantasizing about oneself as a thing that is mistreated, from the surroundings the masochist will prefer an environment that is far from comfort and romance, situations of risk can be especially disturbing.
This behavior is similar to dissociation, with the help of which the victim may abstract from his guilt and shame.
In the stories of many masochistic clients, the following pattern can be seen: during life it was bad with an abuser, but, nevertheless, they got some kind of drive from her. As soon as these women connected their lives with an adequate man who was not prone to violence, they began to be flooded with difficult memories, anxiety, guilt and resentment. As a result, they plunged into a depressive state and even began to consume alcohol, falling into new destruction or awakening all not the best qualities in their husbands.
Awareness of these patterns can help the masochist rethink his behavior. It is also important to understand that there is a great difference between violence as a sexual game and violence that turns into a victim and inflicts serious injury.
I want to emphasize that such a position is characteristic only of masochistic individuals and their dynamics may not coincide at all with the motives of other individuals in a situation of abuse.
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