2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Power of love. The fact that love is one of the most powerful feelings does not need to be said specifically. But let's answer a completely logical question: "Why is she given such an irresistible force, the victim of which sooner or later becomes each of us?"
General reasoning:
As you know, in the life of every person there are two main goals: the first is biological, the second is social. Biological is the same "basic instinct", the instinct of procreation … Simply put, each person must give birth to someone, pass on their personal genes from the present to the future. In sports terms, this is an "obligatory part" of the life program, something that we need to do literally "at any cost", even at the cost of our lives …
♥ Social purpose Is an "arbitrary" program. This is our goal, which we invent for ourselves in order to while away that very indefinite time that is allotted to us for our earthly existence. Someone dreams of becoming a great writer, someone is a famous engineer, someone is a successful businessman, someone is a president of a country, someone is a talented doctor, someone is a singer or a singer, someone is the owner of a supermarket, shoe store or beauty salon … In general, who will come up with what …
There may or may not be a social purpose. There are millions of people who “don't need anything in this life”: no education, no prestigious work, no pleasure in achieving great life goals. They simply live their lives as biological beings, only slightly ennobled by the time in which they were destined to be born.
In this case, the biological goal (as the original goal) completely triumphs over the social goal. It is not surprising that the social strata of those "who give a damn about everything" reproduce in the most active way. Because, in essence, there is nothing else to do with it …
Meanwhile, the progress of humanity leads to a constant complication of social goals. For centuries they require more and more time, volitional, mental and physical efforts for their achievement. This leads to an increasingly tangible conflict between biological and social goals. Nowadays, being a good parent and “successful” person is becoming downright difficult. As a result, for most of our contemporaries (especially men) the need to continue the race is increasingly becoming nothing more than an annoying necessity, a burdensome "tribute" to nature. People think: "Yes, family and children are, of course, necessary … But they are so reluctant to do all this, to spend time on this, which can be used with much greater benefit on something else …".
Over the past century, there has been a clear change in values, as a result of which the need to continue a kind is gradually disappearing from the first plan to the second, and even to the third. Thanks to such a property of human consciousness as the ability to get carried away with this or that type of activity, some individuals begin to do not care at all about fulfilling their main biological mission - procreation! They are engaged in "all sorts of experiments and scientific research", create gigantic corporations and fight for power, put their lives "in the service of the Motherland" and have the audacity to die heroically without leaving any offspring.
So, Mother Nature does not like this human approach to reproduction! I really don't like it … She wants biological goals to always be higher, priority social. So she came up with a clever move, reached, so to speak, a compromise. This compromise between biological and social goals became Love …
♥ Love is not only a compromise between two human egoisms, but also a compromise in the struggle between biological and social goals in a person. ♥ Love is a compromise in the conflict between the desire to “become someone”, to realize oneself as a person and to find “quiet family happiness”.
What did the cunning Mother Nature do? She seemed to say to the person: “Please, do your education, career, earn money. Do as much as you want … But you will have hidden a certain "switch" with very big consequences. You live for yourself - you live, and then he turns and … Then you give up all your business and begin to be friends as if all your life you have been waiting for the coming of this very moment!
The goal of the love program is to unexpectedly push you off the social rut into the biological one.
To do this, you must first temporarily "fool", force you to do what you have not only not done before, but even hesitated, condemned and openly ridiculed, calling those who did it "fools in love." Congratulations: you yourself have now become this "fool" who crosses the whole city every day in order to stand for half an hour, embracing your beloved (oh) … (the power of love)
If you disagree with this statement, answer the following questions:
- - Why do you tell the most intimate information about your past to the person you met just an hour ago?
- - Why are you looking at him with the same interest that you have never had before?
- - Why do you give him (her) your phone, which before that many other people asked you, and you always refused them?
- - Why do you think it is possible to postpone a long-planned meeting with former classmates (classmates) for the sake of a trip to the cinema (theater, club, etc., etc.) just appointed by your new acquaintances?
- - Why do you feel so sweet and anxious about everything that happens?
You, of course, will not give a clear answer to this question. Mumble something like: "He (a) is not like everyone else, and therefore I liked (s) …".
If it is fair to say to you that "there are even better copies", you will agree with this, but you will go to the cinema with a new acquaintance (oh) anyway … That's for sure!
However, what's the point of putting you in a funny perspective? Answers to such questions are not provided for by the program of love, if only simply because it arose even when there were no thinking beings on Earth and no one asked such questions. Why do all living organisms multiply? Because it is so programmed! And that's it …
Conclusions:
♥ Love – it is a "biological malfunction" in the work of the average social program of the average person, a computer "virus" that disturbs the tuning in the work of the "social block" of our consciousness.
♥ The purpose of love, the task of implementing a "biological malfunction" in the work of a reasonable behavioral program is simple: to force a person to pay increased attention to the issue of his reproduction, that is, love "friendship." ♥
And in order not to scare this person himself too much with possible cardinal changes in his life, this "love virus" itself shyly hides under various signs and screens, such as: "we are just friends", "we are pleased to be together", "I have never met (a) such a wonderful person "," I recently found out with surprise (a) that this particular girl (this guy) is not such a fool (such a "fool") as everyone else ", etc. etc. After some time, a person “infected with the virus of love” no longer understands what the matter is, and where all this can lead … (Of course, to the registry office !!!).
From this, the following pattern can be deduced:
♥ The stronger a person's social programs, the stronger should be that biological procreation program, which should distract him (her) from current affairs and force him to communicate with the partner that Fate brought him (her) to and with whom he (she) destined to breed … ♥
That is why the most enthusiastic and creative people are visited by the most vivid and amazingly deep love! For the simple reason that some kind of banal and "gray" feeling can never distract them from the easel, microscope, computer or writing political manifestos.
This is why love is so strong (the power of love)! It is strong simply because if it were weak, the social, rational goals of people would completely suppress "biology", cancel the tasks of procreation. As a result, cultured, educated and enthusiastic people would have died out long ago! They would simply be so carried away by studying the stars or all at once would have gone to monasteries that they would have no time to reproduce, or simply ashamed …
Having said this, we answered the very question that was formulated by us at the beginning: love is strong because the peculiarity of human evolution and history was first created and then extremely complicated by social goals. She just can't help but be strong! (Power of love)
Love is part of the self-preservation mechanism of the human species
the guarantee that the civilization of people will survive under any unfavorable conditions for it
Since human civilization itself is a complex and "twisted" thing with its own laws and energy, the power of love must always manifest itself "one step earlier", it must necessarily be stronger than those unfavorable (for reproduction) circumstances that people all the time create for themselves … Otherwise, it’s worthless, otherwise it will no longer be a “basic instinct”, but just a secondary one …
Remember and think for yourself: there are world wars, people are dying of hunger and perishing in concentration camps, but … at the same time they manage to fall in love with each other !!! Such is the craving for life, such is the power of love! I hope you understand me…
However, all this has its own "wrong side", "the other side of the love medal." Being a very tough, one might say, a coercive program of behavior that almost forcibly forces us to obey another person, love is a behavioral program with a rather short lifespan. The power of love is very powerful, but unfortunately not infinite in time.
Practical recommendations:
♥ First. If you wish a bright love - become brighter yourself! ♥
As already mentioned, the following pattern is visible:
The brighter a person's personality, the more complex the social goals set by him, the brighter his love feeling.
Therefore, if you want to experience a really strong feeling, you should try to become an intelligent, "difficult" and very busy person. As soon as you begin to devote all your strength to study, sports, career and self-improvement, be sure: Mother Nature will seriously take care of the preservation of your genes and will send you such a feeling, such a Love with a capital letter, the memory of which you will enjoy a lifetime, about which you will tell all your friends and about which write whole volumes of poems and romance novels …
In general, if you want a bright love - become a Real Human!
♥ Second. Once you fall in love and not start a family, be prepared to suffer. ♥
Once it works, the love program always tries to see it through. She must definitely put the lovers in one bed, and even better, lead to the birth of children and the creation of a family. If this does not happen, you start having problems …
The partner who has not yet been tested in terms of paternity or maternity is the most attractive one. The "raw" sex-love option always seems to be the best.
If a person gave at least a few months (not to mention years) to loving communication with you, and then slammed the door and left forever, we always want to catch up with him and return … If you left, it will also be very, very painful …
From this, the following love pattern can be deduced:
Love ends the fastest just when people are “all right”, and it works indefinitely if “everything is bad” and “nothing works out”. Love exists for a short time, just when you really want it to always exist, and "works" for a very long time, just when it hurts, when you want it not to exist at all. This is it, this love …
Get ready to learn all this firsthand …
♥ Third. Keep in mind: you can love several … ♥
Since the meaning of existence of the "basic instinct" consists not only in the very fact of the birth of your children, but also in the appearance of children with the most different genetic characteristics (in other words, from different partners), the creation and maintenance of "optimally built" relationships with several sexual partners at once is quite an organic part of the work of the "service" love program.
Each person has inherent in him the ability to successfully build relationships with several potential sexual partners at the same time. Nature is far from moral, only the result is important to her. That is why she gave all of us the opportunity to love several members of the opposite sex at once. So many of us love …
Some features of the development of European civilization led to the creation of the idea and traditions of a monogamous family. Therefore, from childhood, each of us fosters a negative attitude towards those who “are friends immediately to the right and to the left,” artificially aroused a feeling of shame for such behavior. However, paying tribute to the traditions accepted among us, one should not distort the objectivity of things:
Love and love relationships with several partners at once do not contradict natural behavioral attitudes and do not bear the imprint of some kind of mental or sexual deviation. Anyone is quite capable of loving several members of the opposite sex at the same time …
In this sense, it is the monogamy that is now adopted that seems to be a clear “deviation”. However, we are already quite used to it …
Remark:
♥We often say that love is ruthless. Yes this is true. But it cannot be different! And, what is most curious, it is in our own interests. After all, we do not want to give birth to children closer to retirement, then we have a good apartment, a car, a summer residence and a bank account? That's right, we don't want to! So there is nothing to blame for that good force, which only seems to us ruthless and which, in fact, with its kicks very much helps us to make those very timely decisions "about family and children", which we come to at the level of consciousness only when the head is already starting to turn gray … ♥
Love always thinks for us. Including when we ourselves are not even thinking about anything like that … But we ought to! How old are you ?!
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