2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
We often think that kindness is the lot of the weak. Good is the lot of the foolish. Good = naivety. They do not seek from goodness. Kindness will destroy you. It is not profitable to be kind…. And such statements feed our fear of being vulnerable in a state of kindness. Do you often rejoice when you rebuff the offender in a harsh manner? The modern world is moving away from the propaganda of kindness and mercy, choosing a tough but fair position. And yet … If you go to the root of the state of good from the point of view of psychology, you can draw a parallel far from weakness. When a person faces a choice (and he always stands), we turn on either intellect (reason, logic) or intuition (feelings, emotions). Reason will explain to us in detail our choice, agree with it and accept it. Intuition, on the other hand, does not work logically, and sometimes it is much more difficult to explain an intuitive choice in words. Ask yourself this question: How often do you regret choosing to do something kind rather than fair? When did your kindness get in your way?
From wikipedia good - the general concept of moral consciousness, a category of ethics that characterizes positive moral values, the antonym of evil. But still, understanding goodness with reason is not so easy. In psychology, the closest thing to the concept of goodness is the concept of acceptance. It’s easier this way, it’s easier to overcome any situation - to accept it. This is the difficulty in being kind. How much strength a person should have to accept the cruel attitude of his father as a child. There is a choice - all your life to blame yourself for not being able to resist an adult, strong person on whom you were dependent. Or accept it? Accept as much as possible. The next step is self-acceptance. With all the mistakes we made. Accepting losses, accepting problems, accepting illnesses, accepting circumstances, accepting other people. All this is good. Accepting and not responding to other people is proving to be a very effective means of preventing mental health problems. By choosing acceptance, we are choosing mental health. So it turns out that being kind is profitable. By responding with a smile and gratitude to the offender, you increase your rating, your image, your self-esteem and the level of pleasure in the world. You yourself have the right to choose how to behave with the world. And if you want an easy way to find happiness, choose good.
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