Signs Of Betrayal Of A Husband, Wife

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The reasons for the novel are on the side, very individual. They usually have a common trigger - the unfaithful partner is looking for a form of intimacy or recognition that he allegedly did not find in the relationship. Don't think, "This only happens to other couples. It can happen to any couple."

Signs of treason

What evidence points to a partner's infidelity? I have summarized a few for you.

Changes to phone use

Most notable is the change in smartphone use. If your partner suddenly carries a mobile phone with him all the time, even to the shower or toilet, delves into it for a long time, and noticing that he is "caught" suddenly turns off, you should pay attention - especially if there was no such behavior before.

More thorough body care and new scent

Changes in personal hygiene can also be indicative. Especially if they suddenly become noticeably more thorough, for example, shaving more often, showering before leaving with friends, a new perfume, more intense body care.

If he is surrounded by a floral scent after working overtime, or if she smells noticeably masculine after meeting her girlfriends, you should pay attention: physical intimacy always leaves traces of scent. Also note if he allegedly played soccer with his friends, but the sports equipment does not smell of sweat and is not "thrown" into the wash. Or she suddenly takes sexy lingerie with her on business trips.

Other signs may include:

• excessive styling, makeup,
• completely new behavior - he / she was not like that,
• changes in sexual behavior,
• increased number of walks - walks alone or an increase in the number of excursions alone and with friends who were not there before.
• frequent delays at work.

Where does the novel begin?

According to a survey of 1,037 people between the ages of 16 and 65, women, on average, had 2.1 romances, and men - 3.6 romances. But where does treason begin?

Every second betrayal starts with kissing. This opinion is especially shared by women. Ten percent of them even think that the mere thought of another woman is tantamount to romance.

Men are more relaxed in this matter: 43% of them believe that only the very fact of a sexual act can be equated with treason.

Why do men and women cheat?

Men and women cheat for different reasons. Emotional and sexual dissatisfaction plays an important role in women, according to marriage consultant Gary Neumann. They lack attention, as well as recognition and appreciation from the partner. “He doesn't hear me - it also played a role in motivating cheating,” says Neumann.

On the other hand, men are unfaithful because they have no sex or are sexually unsatisfied, explains relationship expert Michael Nast. Men also often cite loneliness, boredom, or fear of sexual failure as the cause.

Psychotherapist Hegmann says: "From the point of view of modern attachment research, above all emotional distance contributes to infidelity." This means that the distance in relationships that partners feel is one of the most common reasons for starting another romance. " The fact is that the lack of intimacy leads to the desire to seek connections outside the relationship. It rarely happens on purpose and suddenly, it mostly happens when you slowly approach a person who appears and becomes more and more vigorous, trustworthy,”says the expert. If you discuss the shortcomings in your relationship and your needs, not with your partner, but with a third party, this further contributes to distance and alienation from each other, therefore it is recommended to discuss everything with your partner or go to a psychologist together.

Why cheating goes unnoticed

Despite possible clues, many betrayals still go unnoticed. Why is this so?

“It often works because intrigue often occurs in a relationship that lacks the necessary attention to the partner,” says Hegmann. "In most cases, you can see a clear change - even in women who are said to be more cautious about cheating."

Another reason is that the partner suspects that he is being cheated on, but does not want to admit it and unconsciously or consciously suppresses warning signs for fear of losing the other.

Act correctly if you suspect

Even if a partner suddenly shows changes, this does not always indicate his betrayal. People change and develop. This should not affect the relationship and is not automatically a cause for concern.

My friend has long observed noticeable changes in her husband's behavior. And phone conversations, which immediately stopped as soon as she entered the room, and suspicious SMS, and suspicious leaving of her husband, allegedly on business … ….. In general, she shared with me that she already seriously wants to talk to him about the divorce. I asked her to wait a little and distract herself with other things, since there is no direct evidence, and you have three children.

After some time, my friend had a birthday, she usually celebrated it in a restaurant and the day before she was in a joyful mood and in a pleasant bustle of organizing the holiday. This time, a restaurant was also ordered and friends were invited, but it felt like everything was somehow different.

When it came time to give gifts, her husband blindfolded her, took her outside and ……………

It turned out that all this time he was looking for a present for her - a car, and all that seemed to her "signs of treason" were just negotiations to buy a car.