2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Received 20 questions!
She answered in her own style - accurately, meaningfully, constructively, so I post the answers in parts
QUESTION 1: is it true that a person's injuries remain with him forever and the only thing that can be done is to undergo therapy so that these injuries do not interfere with life?
ANSWER: Many people need personal therapy, simply because we live in a stressful world.
Trauma forms a strategy for survival, disrupts the adaptation mechanism, distorts the perception of oneself and others, personal therapy is indispensable.
Trauma is a part of a person's personal history. If a person is focused only on his pain and suffers chronically, the trauma will remain with him forever. If he begins to heal her through personal therapy, she will become part of his past.
QUESTION 2: Is it true that there are no absolutely healthy people, everyone is traumatized to one degree or another?
ANSWER: Yes, really. And that's okay.
QUESTION 3. How to get rid of the feeling of guilt, forgive yourself. Even if you asked for forgiveness, but the guilt remains inside？
ANSWER: All forgiveness rituals are manipulations. Guilt is a toxic, poisonous feeling, very strong and deep. You have to work with guilt, not get rid of it. It is important to make it visible, to recognize its influence on oneself, relationships and spheres of life, to realize what behavioral strategies the wine launches, what triggers keep it in a person. In the future, wine is transformed into tranquility. After that, the attitude towards oneself changes. Alone, this path is difficult and very long.
QUESTION 4: the question of justice is very acute. That is, I compare my actions with the possible receipt of a reward, and very often underestimating my actions I refuse the offered fee, it can be either money or other options (services, assistance). How to get rid of this feeling?
ANSWER: You never wrote your feeling. J (justice is not a feeling). You do not have permission to borrow money or help. There is a ban inside. You need to unpack this permission.
QUESTION 5: How to forgive the abuser? The resentment has stuck deeply and has been sitting for many years.
ANSWER: Work through feelings of anger and anger towards the offender. In the future, calmness. Then the offender will no longer "catch" you
QUESTION 6. It is very interesting to know more about you. Why constellations? Where did you study? Do you do constellations for yourself and your family?
ANSWER: I came to constellations (method: deep feeling) through my serious illness, looked for a solution for it, wanted to know why the trouble happened to me, found out that I have a connection with the deep field, I can read it and interact. Training began to develop these abilities. Talent must always be used, otherwise it will poison you, like me for many years. Now I almost always work through Paul, even in personal therapy with clients.
She studied for 2 years, with Oksana Solodovnikova (she no longer teaches) and Vera Ilyina (there seems to be no enrollment for training). The training was extremely hard and cool. I have never seen such a methodology from anyone else.
Never and under no circumstances do I do anything to my family. I make techniques for myself, I work with maps. I do constellations for myself from other constellators, I recently underwent personal coaching, unpacked the rights for myself. I was just able to improve my skill - to buy and take help from specialists.
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