2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Russian priest Yakov Krotov says: "Evil does not tolerate good, but good can tolerate evil." Well said. On my own behalf, I will add that it can endure good, but good must have a limit of patience, otherwise good turns into the same evil if it endures infinitely and makes evil understand that EVERYTHING is POSSIBLE.
The poet Stanislav Kunyaev speaks about this well in his poem:
Good must be with fists.
Good must be harsh
so that the wool flew in clumps
from all who climb for good.
Good is not pity or weakness.
Good crush the locks of the shackles.
Good is not slush and not holiness, not absolution.
Being kind is not always convenient
accept not just the conclusion
what is fractional, good-good
knew how to work a machine gun, that the meaning of the story is ultimately
in one good action -
knock out calmly
those who have not surrendered to the good!
Often we hear from psychologists and spiritual teachers the statement: "Do not change the world, do not remake it. Change yourself and the environment will respond to your changes. You will become kinder and your loved ones will become kinder to you." Or "The world is your mirror. What's inside you is outside." On the one hand, everything is correct. But there are also exceptions to this rule.
I have repeatedly raised the topic of psychopathy and narcissism on my page. And as a psychologist who was convinced in practice and as a woman who came into contact with such a phenomenon in her personal life, I confirm that psychopathy and narcissism are the most real evil that every person can come into contact with in his life. And no matter how hard you try to change yourself, you cannot change anything. No matter how you try to do good to the psychopath, everything will not be enough for him and in the end he will wipe his feet on you and go to look for the next victim. Or you will not withstand constant psychological or physical violence and, gathering your will into a fist, you will carry your feet, realizing that your next step next to this person is your death.
All medical and psychological literature agree on one thing, that it is true that it is not so easy to diagnose psychopathy, there are no specific tests that give us a similar snapshot of personality disorder. This diagnosis can only be made by a psychotherapist who observes the patient for a long time and relies on the stories of his relatives about the manifestations of this person in close contact. Also, doctors and psychologists agree that this is an incurable disorder caused by early trauma and genetics (most often alcoholism and drug addiction in the ancestors or / and the patient himself) and IT CANNOT BE HEALED, but only minimal psychocorrection, subject to long-term psychotherapy …
So. back to the topic of good and evil. Can you change yourself to change the narcissist and psychopath? Can you, by constantly doing good to a person suffering from psychopathy and narcissistic disorder, change this personality for the better and "lure" her to the side of good? The answer is obvious: "No!" Because a psychopath and a narcissist will forever remain a psychopath and a narcissist!
You even walk in front of him on your ears, nothing will change. So what kind of change are psychologists talking about, as a result of which your life will change for the better? The main mistake here is that some of them argue that you can change a loved one by changing yourself, becoming kinder to him. All of this is true, but it does not work with the narcissist and psychopath. And it will never work. Therefore, the most important change that you need to discover in yourself is to find strength in yourself and get out of toxic relationships. Do not endure evil indefinitely. Everything in this world has a limit. And we are living people, not Jesus in the flesh. When you endure infinitely evil and continue to do good, then you already begin to do evil, in relation to yourself so accurately, and to the psychopath, the narcissist, you show that evil is unpunished. Therefore, of course, Good can endure evil, but the question is how long does it take? It is up to you to decide how willing you are to self-destruct in this wild process: "He is evil to you and you are good to him." I will end with the words from which I began: "Good must be with fists!"
Have you ever had a toxic relationship? Share in the comments if you had to live with a daffodil under the same roof. Did you manage to overcome this evil?
(c) Yulia Latunenko
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