2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Relationships in a couple become ordinary, predictable, stable. You begin to feel a strong bond with your partner and feel like a couple. Your focus has shifted from wanting to "impress your partner" to wanting to build a relationship. Thanks to this desire, many decide to live together, get married or have a child.
Also during this period, you begin to take a sober look at the relationship and partner. Passions subside. Partners begin to notice each other's shortcomings, peculiarities and oddities, and a feeling of irritation appears. Behavior changes - you begin to behave more relaxed and natural.
What is important at this stage:
- It is necessary to solve all the problems, not leaving them for later and not turning a blind eye to their existence.
- Meet each other's needs, especially if they do not interfere with your personal interests.
- Don't try to change your partner. Start all changes with yourself. The partner will begin to change only after you 😊.
- Give love without demanding something in return. This motivates the other very well to start doing the same. Do everything with a sincere desire to bring joy to your loved one.
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Accept that things that are obvious to you are not at all obvious to your partner. It creates a storm of emotions, but it is at this stage, thanks to feelings and shared values, that you have the strength to accept.
- Compensate each other for topics that cannot be agreed upon.
- Abandon the motto “it will settle by itself”, do not let everything take its course. This is the lapping stage that cannot be avoided. Everyone seeks to do what he wants, regardless of his partner. Try to clarify things that are very obvious to you. Remember that you are different, not only by gender, but also by upbringing.
What to do?
- Clarify. Don't think that things that are obvious to you are obvious to your partner. You may be intimidated or annoyed by your difference and dissimilarity, but it is these differences that complement you. Try to take the other person's place, understand his motives - and at the same time, do not forget about your own desires. Clarify concepts. Remember that everyone puts additional meaning into words.
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Make an agreement. In conflict situations, talk about what the other person should DO, but do not say what he should feel, think, or count. Do not try to change the person as a person, but change the behavior, which is much easier. For example, allow any sexual fantasies (thoughts and feelings), but forbid cheating (action). Remember that many relationships did not work out precisely because of the attempt to change the PERSONALITY of another person.
- Don't be guided by a social norm. There is no norm. Everyone has their own list of rules in relationships. There is no formula for an ideal relationship. You will need to find your own unique formula. The main criterion is that everything suits you both.
- Change the rules. Remember that each period of the relationship brings changes: the old dies away, the new appears. Agree that you can change any previously agreed rule, just do it together.
The duration of the period is individual, the less focus on the partner in a couple, the longer the stage lasts.
The crisis of the second stage of relations is hopelessness. There is nothing new in the relationship, quarrels as according to the scenario, constant everyday problems. Relationships seem to be all about compromise. The main question is: is it really always this way now?
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