2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Each of us wants the best for our children. We want them to be happy, healthy, rich, smart, lucky, talented, etc. And what do we - parents do for this? What messages do we give our children? What do we teach them by our example? The life scenario is formed at a very early age (up to 3 years). And it is formed from the messages that the child hears and sees about himself, about others and about the world as a whole. I bring to your attention messages for different stages of development, which form a "psychologically healthy" life position of a person and enable a child to form a successful, happy life scenario.
So, the messages for the first Stage of "existence" (from 0 to 6 months). Tell your child something like this:
1. I'm glad you live
2. Thank you for being
3. Your needs are important to me
4. You belong to this world
5. You can experience all your senses.
6. You can grow at your own pace
7. I love you and willingly take care of you
8. I'm glad that you are you
9. I accept you as you are
10. You can have desires and inform other people about them
Messages for the "Action" Stage (6 months to 18 months):
1. I love how you take initiative, grow and learn
2. I love you both when you are active and when you are calm
3. You can do as much as you need
4. You can use all your senses to explore the world
5. You can explore and experiment, and I will support and protect you
6. You can know what you know
7. You can be interested in everything
8. You can learn something new using your feelings, thoughts and actions.
Messages for the "Thinking" Stage (from 18 months to 3 years):
1. You can think and feel at the same time
2. You can learn to think for yourself, and I will think for myself
3. You can separate from me and I will continue to love you
4. You can know what you need and ask for help
5. I am glad that you start to think for yourself
6. You can be angry (express anger), and I will not let you hurt yourself and others
7. I accept all the feelings you express.
8. You are able to think for yourself
9. I love you and continue to take care of you with joy
Messages for the Stage "Identity and Strength" (from 3 to 6 years old):
1. I love you the way you are
2. You can try different roles and ways to be strong
3. You can understand where fantasy is and where reality is
4. You can understand the results of your behavior
5. You can explore who you are and who other people are
6. All your feelings are acceptable to me and I am able to withstand them
7. You can ask questions and get answers
8. You can say what you think
9. You can feel all your feelings and express them
Messages for the "Structuring" Stage (6 to 12 years old):
1. You can learn when and how to disagree
2. I love you even when we are different. I like to grow with you
3. You can think of yourself and get help instead of being unhappy.
4. You can learn the rules that will help you live and interact with other people
5. You can trust your intuition to decide what to do.
6. You can think before you say yes or no and learn from your mistakes
7. You can find the way to do something that works for you.
8. I care about you and love you even when you disagree with me and I disagree with you
9. It's ok to be different
Messages for the Stage "Identification, Sexuality and Separation" (12 to 17 years old):
1. My love is always with you. I trust you to ask for my support
2. You can become more masculine (feminine) and still be addicted sometimes
3. You can understand the difference between sex and caring and be responsible for your feelings and behavior.
4. I will be glad to see you as an adult (oh)
5. You can learn to use old skills in new ways.
6. You can know who you are and learn independence skills
7. You can have and develop your own interests, beliefs and relationships.
8. I accept you as you are
nine. You can doubt and listen to yourself when making a decision.
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