2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
He's scared all the time. He grabs the hands, gags his mouth, ties his foot to the radiator, presses his head into his shoulders. He says “Oh, maaaaamochki, we won't pull it”, “The quieter you go - you will continue”, “God is patient and blessed us”, “Keep away from sin”, “No matter how it works”.
The Strumpy critic is an ancient creature, inherited through the centuries, constraining in movements and impulses. And not just like that. I will describe this criticism first, since it is comparatively not harmful, and in some places even very useful.
Fear is natural, salvific, instantly reflected in the body. Our ancestors should have conveyed to each other by mimicry - "Hear, there is a dinosaur behind you." You won't have time to say, but your face shows right away. Well, the critic integrated inward. To protect.
Only fears are different. In addition to vital ones, such as not looking at how the teeth of a living shark are arranged, each generation transmitted additional messages to protect descendants from danger. Remember, "Do not whistle, there will be no money"? I was amazed at how many people in Europe are whistling. Everything was spinning in my head "Che whistling, there will be no money, what is incomprehensible?" Looking closely at the whistlers, I saw that they were dressed well (there is money for the kagbe), but whistle because they feel good and carefree. There is a version that in difficult repressive times our great-greats … to show prosperity and carelessness (by whistling, clothes, talking) was dangerous. Someone will also get jealous and roll where it is necessary. And there is no money, nothing will be … Well, this is a word about fears through generations.
Therefore, it is important to take the critic of Stremny by the arm, sit on a soft sofa and ask - what are we afraid of? Literally, write down everything that is alarming and frightening. And then check the list of these fears for reality today.
The main thing to remember about Fear is that its function is not to scare to intimidate, but to build a safer path. And the Critic "Stretny" helps to find this path. Indeed, leaving a long-term job without options and insurance can be a very unsafe event. Therefore, you can interact with this critic in the following way - to identify real unsafe places, to plant "airbags" of safety:
- Find an ally who will support or just be there when it's scary;
- Take a trial first step, relatively safe. Then the second, each time increasing the degree of risk, but staying in the zone where fear is no more than a desire to try. Etc. It is called desensitization.
- Look for alternatives.
- Find out about similar situations of other people, check whether it is so scary, or the catastrophe in the head is greatly exaggerated.
The usual Critic of the "Dumb" subspecies, calms down on this. But if fear is caused by a possible rejection of other people, then this is the Critic - "Comrades, it's a shame!" About him next time.
Hi to the dumb Critic! Inspiration for you!
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