2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
As a child, I liked doing so many things, where did everything disappear?
Your talents are when you enjoy the process, and it brings pleasure and benefits to those around you. This is not necessarily what you are already making money with. Perhaps you did not even study any special skill, but for some reason your friends ask you: “Sew me the same one” or “How cool, but can you draw for me?”.
Where do we bury our talents?
You know so little about your talents and the uniqueness of what you create. And even if you guess, then you bury them deep in a secret place. And at night, so that no one sees, you take out your talent, blow off the dust and admire for a minute.
But suddenly you feel that someone is standing behind your back and it gives you goosebumps. You turn around - and you see such a small, shabby guy.
And he whispers in a disgusting, raspy voice: “Ugh, is this what you call talent? Yes, everyone can do that, but Lenka is so much cooler! Where are you going? Hide until no one sees! Did you even study for this? Only 15 years old and dare you call yourself a specialist? " You see, it gives her this pleasure, nonsense! Better go wash the floors, the house is dirty!"
And at first you resist, but you do not stop listening, and the more you listen to him, the more this little shabby guy turns into a huge and angry man.
And when there is no more strength to resist him, you begin to believe these words. You are angry with yourself for daring to think that you have some kind of talent there. You bury it back deep in the ground and go to wash the floors, the house is really dirty.
Sound familiar? I’m very much. It is our inner critic that works this way when he does not know his place.
Where the critic came from
He appeared in us a long time ago and he speaks most often in the voices of significant adults who “wanted the best,” thinking that in this way they would teach us wisdom. Or maybe they were envious girlfriends or first love, which became even more traumatic.
And then it was decided not to show anyone what I can do, so that it would not hurt that someone decides to devalue and trample on it.
What to do with the critic
I propose to do it differently. When you pull out your treasure chest and get your talent out of there, you are treating it with care. Admire how it glitters beautifully in the sun or glows in the dark.
Smell it, taste its texture. Treat it gently as if you were holding an expensive crystal vase.
And as soon as you hear the familiar voices of the critic, just tell him “you sit here, don't interfere, let's just see what happens. And if you want, you can suggest how to do my job even better."
It may be worth completing an additional education or finding a course that will improve your skills. After all, even if you really want to be a doctor, desire alone is not enough. But you can go study and make your dream come true.
Then you will notice how evil and disgusting the guy is - the critic will turn into a skillful and reliable assistant. And if he continues to spoil your life, just keep doing your job. Eventually he will get bored and find something more rewarding to do.
I advise you to write a complete list of what you once liked to do, but you denied yourself, listening to the voices of the critic. As you write the list, send the critic out for a walk and have the floors clean themselves.
And then, point by point, do something from this list.
Did you like to draw as a child, but completely forgot how to do it? Just take a piece of paper and pencils and start sketching. Even if it seems to you that you are doing it unprofessionally and no one will appreciate your work.
Do not try to achieve results and create a masterpiece right away. Listen to your feelings in the process, observe what happens to you when the pencil leaves marks on the paper. Imagine that you are a child and for the first time you saw this magic, when a pencil leaves traces on paper, how it obeys your movements.
Apply the same principle to any other creativity. "Dance as if no one sees you!"
Remember, how you know how to do it, no one will do it! This does not mean that someone will do better or worse - it means that he will do it differently. Perhaps your client will like your style.
Wish you luck!
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