About The Stages Of Working With A Love Trauma From The Past

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

So, the love relationship is interrupted, and mentally you are still attached to a person from the past and do not live by the current history, but the one that is no longer there, which has gone, has ceased. You are exhausted and exhausted: you have to live in the present, go forward, but the past does not let you in and keeps you. You seem to be stuck between the worlds of the present and the past, with one leg there, the other here. Sound familiar? Then my article will be useful for you, providing a basic program of rescue actions to get out of the problem.

1. So … The first thing to start with is to honestly answer to yourself: are you really closing this difficult door for you or the space of the previous relationship has not been exhausted and may still be a resource for you?

Let me explain … Love relationships are full of crises, but they can develop and grow. In this regard, there is a great analogy: love, like a child, transforms from a tiny baby into a strong and whole person.

Sometimes partners mistake crises for a dead end, breaking the precious threads that bind them, thereby making a mistake. Realizing this, it is not too late to correct this mistake by sitting down at the negotiating table to discuss the “barrier reefs” and agree on further partnership.

If this case is not yours and parting is the best way out of the current circumstances, we proceed to the next stage of work.

2. Let's say you intend to "close the door" to your difficult past. Nevertheless, it does not let you go from yourself? Think: what kind of soul hook are you attached to the past, what keeps you there? Answers will come, you just have to put them, and having put them, think and look.

Answer options can be as follows: guilt, resentment, disappointment, mental collapse, and so on, and so on …

It will be necessary to work with the feeling found during the analysis. And the next step will help us with this.

3. Look your pain in the eye and accept it. Tell her: “I can see you! You are! I admit you! You are an important part of me. And I accept you!"

This alone will give you the desired relief: thereby you do not divide yourself into “sick” and “healthy”, but accept as whole, as you are.

4. Thank the found feeling for the meaning it gives you. Your feeling reveals to you a hint, a spiritual resource. Thanks to what you have passed and what you have learned, you have become much more experienced and wiser. Tell yourself: "Thank you!"

5. And then, help yourself to cope with your emotions: love yourself the way that valuable experience made you. The past is just a stepping stone in your history. Transformative, important, but past. Now we will satisfy our pain and it will be transformed into pure, spiritual knowledge. Mentally form a receiving space (a zone of spiritual grace, love) and place your painful emotions there. See how the space of love heals your feelings and translates them into knowledge, valuable experience. Your soul is filled with harmony and balance. The pain goes away, letting go of you forever. Look at the present yourself: you, the present, are much deeper and more multifaceted than yourself before. It is your past that made you that way.

6. Further … Now we will try to forgive ourselves, the former, with all the wrong assumptions, mistakes. Yes, yes, the one who “committed”, “did not take into account,” “stumbled,” and so on, and so on … This is work with your sense of guilt. In its own way, it keeps you in your past, not letting go into the future. Tell yourself the following: "I am alive, I am learning and I have the right to make non-special, unintentional mistakes." (Remember the Gospel? "He who is without sin among you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her." grows; a man would be perfect, he would live on Olympus and be called differently - God.

Do not take on a lot: it is impossible to foresee everything in advance, take everything into account and act perfectly. Life has given you a difficult but priceless gift - EXPERIENCE! Now you can do more! Congratulate yourself: you are now stronger and deeper than before! Your past has raised you! Wonderful!

Forgiving yourself is very important! Try it! Happened? Do you feel what kind of liberation forgiveness gives you? Amazing! Go ahead…

7. The next step is to forgive your neighbor. Let your partner be as wrong as yours. He, like you, is an ordinary and living person, not a perfectly calculated computer program. Your loved one, like everyone else, consists of "heaven" and "weed". Don't ask too much of him! He gave you what he knew how. And this is often very, very much! Be merciful and forgive him for everything!

The anchors of the past are becoming more and more neutralized. Your release is at hand.

8. Next stage. Gratitude! Truly a magic word! Someone very rightly compared gratitude with spiritual acceptance and love. So … If the new stage of your life separate from your partner does not allow the implementation of previous relationships and feelings, and destructive emotions such as resentment and anger are neutralized, try to translate your old connection with your partner into the broadcast of GRATITUDE. This will restore the field balance of relationships and strengthen your kind, separate future. Gratitude is love, but passionless, disinterested, generous. Think: we all have something to thank our partners from the past for? At least for valuable life experience. As a maximum, for your GOOD.

The long-awaited branch will give thanks. The remnants of disappointment and resentment will melt under its sacred radiance and will not drag you into the past. You can easily continue your further journey. Nothing will hold you back.

9. Last but not least, say goodbye to your past. Ritual and factual. Pay it off. Write it down in symbolic letters. Let your wound heal completely, completely. End the farewell with a ritual, prompting formula: I LET GO OF MY PAST, THE PAST LEAVES ME, THIS STEP OF MY STORY HAS BEEN PASSED - I WILL GO FURTHER.