Working With The Past. Therapeutic Tale

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Once upon a time there was a woman who very, very, with all her heart wanted to be happy, so that it would be good in her family, oh well.

But it began with her husband that way - okay, okay, peacefully and happily, but over time, problems, difficulties, misunderstandings, quarrels appeared … How to return peace, okay, joy and happiness? What prevents their family from becoming strong and friendly?

No sooner had our heroine come up with this idea, as a cool breeze deftly flew into the unexpectedly opened window. This breeze whirled and whirled and turned into a charming Sorceress. Who is she and why did she come?

- I am the Past, - either sadly, or simply quietly and calmly answered the beauty. - I came to collect my luggage.

- What kind of baggage?

- Baggage of the Past. It is he who prevents you from being happy in family life.

“But…” the Woman began to argue. She looked around, just in case, looked into all the nooks and crannies of the rooms, maybe there really was a suitcase, a box or something like that somewhere here? But no. She returned to the Past.

- Maybe he is invisible, your luggage?

The past nodded and softly snapped a finger. Rrraz … and an unusual suitcase appeared right in the middle of the room. It shone from the inside so much that it seemed that the sun itself was hiding in it, but now it will jump out.

The past suggested:

- Let's see together what you brought with you to family life. Although this should have been done before the wedding, it's better now than never.

The suitcase opened by itself. There were few things. Well, here's a mirror, for example. Our heroine immediately grabbed him, looked, sighed heavily, and put it back.

But the Past told her:

- This mirror reflects how you see yourself: your insecurity, obsession with looking for only shortcomings in yourself. How you see yourself - this is how others see you. During the period of love, you had a magical opportunity to get rid of the mirror of distortions, but then you returned to your favorite complexes, and now you shouldn't be surprised that your husband stopped noticing your real beauty. Will you keep the mirror for yourself or will I take it with me?

- Take it, of course. But what do I really look like?

The past took the Woman by the hand and led her to a large mirror in the hallway.

- Look at yourself with the hearts and eyes of people who loved you, love you. Close your eyes and put your hand on your heart. Remember how your parents love you, your spouse, children, girlfriends, nature, God, the whole Universe, your pets, flowers in your garden …

Our heroine did just that. Opening her eyes, she saw a different person than she was used to "behold." No, she was beautiful, beloved, gentle, graceful, kind, the only, unique she - the one that she always was, she simply did not believe, but what was it, did not know about her existence.

The past said that there is very little time to inspect luggage, you need to return. The Past also has loving friends: memories, dreams, visions, shadows …

A photo album was also found in the suitcase, in which episodes of her parents' family life were captured: here they quarreled, but here they made up, there they traveled, worked in the country, and here they have birthdays … Many situations, images, memories, emotions …

The past explained:

“You brought the legacy of your parents into your family life. It is important for you now to select what you want to leave from their experience of living together, what to learn, and what you would not like to take into your life. But know: everything that you did not like in their relationship should not be judged - otherwise you will act the same way, you will involuntarily attract similar situations. Treat their past calmly: this is their choice, this is their school of relationships, this is their life. This is their love. And take everything that is useful, valuable, expensive and important to you.

The woman carefully examined the family photos of her mom and dad. Yes, she still did not understand a lot, did not accept, but what kind of judge is she when she herself more than once acted in the same way!

She carefully chose those photos that she would like to leave in her family life: her parents never talked to each other about divorce, about parting, even when they quarreled a lot, never left home, did not interfere with their neighbors, relatives, always decided everyone among themselves, they were best friends, they always discussed everything, were interested in each other's life.

Other photos, well, those that will not be useful, the Woman left in the album and continued to examine the contents of the luggage with interest. Some strange leaflets … Letters, or what?

- Yes, - confirmed the Past, - these are unfinished letters. Your unfinished conversations, your unsettled commas and periods, unspoken phrases, unresolved feelings, unanswered questions, your unfinished relationship with your ex.

- And now what i can do?

- Right now, add them letters, and I will give them to them. Safe, as they say, and safe. This is how it all ends. Otherwise, because of this incompleteness of your husband, you stopped noticing, for a long time, I see, you have been conducting dialogues with past relationships. But you need to live in the present. Leave the past to me.

Our heroine nodded, still wondering how she managed to let her former relationship so seriously affect her family happiness. And then she sat down to finish writing letters. She cried, laughed, simply and sadly smiled, was angry, indignant, asked, answered, offended, nervous, made excuses, explained, doubted, thanked, wished all the best and kind, forgave, let go. Finally, she herself was released. She sighed sweetly, lightly. How good it is to be free from the past. All dialogues are complete, commas, exclamation points, question marks and dots are in place, doors are closed, bridges are burned, letters are finished.

But the Past was still waiting for something, did not disappear anywhere. The woman went to the suitcase and saw there the last thing that she did not immediately notice - an invoice for payment. Blimey!

- What is it? - With indignation in her voice she asked the Past, suspecting a swindler in her unexpected guest.

- These are the consequences of your prejudices, mistrust, your unhealed heart wounds.

The woman took a closer look at the list, which was full of negativity and chaos: fear of being abandoned, betrayal, all men cheat, you can't trust anyone, deceived, no one needs me, it's scary to live, the further - the worse, no one loves me. And payment - loneliness, hopelessness, despair, suffering, helplessness …

The past came closer to her and reassured:

“This account is not yet stamped by the Heavenly Chancellery. The hour of reckoning did not come. But you need to start living right now with new, healing beliefs, in a different way, with love and warmth to look at the world, at your relationships, at all the people around you. You need to reconsider your whole life, because it is created thanks to the well-known material: how you think, feel - so you live.

- And what should I do with this account?

- Give it to me. I believe in you, you will succeed.

- But how? What if this bill will be presented to me one fine day? Life will present!

- Start trusting now. Leave your fears and doubts, prejudices and expectations of bad and terrible to me, the Past. Start a new life. Do you believe me?

- I believe. I want to believe.

- It's enough.

The old clock came to life.

“Time to say goodbye,” echoed the Past.

Ono (or she) walked slowly towards the exit. Already on the threshold, the Woman noticed that the Past now had two suitcases that she wanted to take with her. To the silent question of our heroine, the Past answered as follows:

- And this is your spouse's baggage. You see, when one is healed, life changes for the better for both. I believed in you, and you ALREADY succeeded.

- Thank you for everything, for everything, my Past!

- And I wish you happiness. In everything. Just be yourself, please. From this you become more beautiful and sweeter. Remember the family wisdom of your parents. Remember me with ease in your heart. And look at the world with kindness, trust and love. And then everything and always will be good with you.

The Past and the Woman looked at each other and smiled.