2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
A girl lived in a beautiful and distant city. From the outside, her life seemed and was just perfect! The girl was very beautiful, charming and intelligent. She had a wonderful and interesting job, she was surrounded by a sea of friends with whom it was always fun and exciting. There is a wonderful library in her house, she read a lot or sat by the window with knitting, and these were not her only hobbies. In addition, the girl enjoyed success with the opposite sex and did not pass a day that one of the young people did not invite her out on dates. It would seem, live and be happy, but she was unhappy with all this. The fact is that all this was overshadowed by the fact that she was already twenty-five years old, and there was no True Magic Love in her life. What she just did not do … Every New Year she wrote her wish on paper, burned it to the chimes and drank the ashes along with champagne. If she did something for the first time, then she made a wish. I was looking for a four-leaf clover or a lilac flower with five petals, ate them and waited that she was about to knock on her door - True Magic Love. Once, during a period of special despair, the girl even smashed a new set - for luck. But, apart from cleaning up the fragments, it did not bring her anything. So everything went on until one day …
The girl accidentally heard from her friends that the Oracle was coming to her city. And not a simple one, but one that helps everyone, but in his own, special way.
- This is what I need! - thought the girl. - I've been waiting so much, maybe this is a sign that someone will come and solve my problem?
She made an appointment for the very near future. In anticipation of success, I came to the Oracle's office. He was waiting for her, invited her to sit down and fell silent. She did not dare to start the conversation herself, but after a couple of agonizing and silent minutes, she asked.
- Oracle, when will I find my True Magic Love?
- What is love? He asked calmly.
- Love is when he takes care of me, praises me, gives gifts, pampers me.
- And what are you going to do? - the Oracle did not calm down.
"Will I take care of him too?"
- How?
- I will come up with entertainment for us, we will have dinner together, dream, fall asleep and wake up.
- So why do you need NVL if you can do it all yourself?
- The most not interesting!
- Why? - The Oracle persistently dug to the bottom.
- Well, I need a companion!
- For what purpose?
“Not to be alone,” the girl said sadly.
- You need NVL so as not to be alone, ooh, are you alone?
- Is not it so? I dreamed about it all my life!
- About what? Not to be alone?
- Yes!
- It turns out that you are all alone? - he specified again.
- No, but … - and the girl hesitated.
- Who do you have?
- Mom, dad, friends.
- And what else?
- Friends, colleagues.
- Who else?
- (pause and timid, uncertain answer) Universe
- Who else?
“Me,” she whispered softly.
- Who? - asked the Oracle.
- I. - already resolutely said the girl.
The oracle was silent and looked at her attentively, he waited for what would happen next.
- Are you saying that I always wanted me to be with me first of all?
He remained silent, but his gaze warmed, as if he were hiding an approving smile.
- And I always wanted love for myself from myself?
The Oracle only sighed, he knew that his questions were no longer needed. The girl said the most important a few minutes ago. And now only she can give answers to them. This is exactly how his method worked, at the very beginning of the conversation he led those who came to him on the right road, and then they walked along it themselves.
- Do I love myself? - the last and a little frightened question of the girl sounded.
But at that time the secretary came into the office and said that the next visitor was to the Oracle, and the girl's time was over.
When she left the office, she was initially filled with rage and discontent. What is this Oracle? He did not give me a single clear answer, I just wasted my time! But then, when the anger went away, and she remembered her last question, she wanted to find an answer to him.
- Of course I love myself! I pamper myself with gifts, I care, I don't let me get sick, sit hungry. But the doctor in the hospital, or the teacher in the kindergarten, behaves in exactly the same way. This is care and attention, but not love … How can I wait for True Magic Love from someone, if I don't give it to myself?
The girl stopped, turned to face the building where the Oracle remained and quietly whispered "thank you".
Each of us needs our own Oracle. Despite the fact that this is a fairy tale, it describes a real situation that I, as a psychologist, meet almost every day. Many people think that, having come to my appointment, they will instantly receive answers to all their questions, instantly resolve the problems that have been accumulating over the years. Alas, or fortunately, the Oracle is not a panacea. He will not say a magic word, wave his hand, and say a spell. But he will be able to ask the right question, and you, in search of an answer to it, will pull out all that you have been hiding, hiding and wanting to forget for a long time. It is the psychotherapist who will direct you in the right direction, lend his reliable shoulder. Just do not forget that you still need to walk this road on your own.
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