Technology For Solving One Classic Query. Part 3. Working With Maternal Introjects

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Let me remind you of the situation: the client's request is associated with improving relations with men

The first session is devoted to comprehending and working out the previous partner experience, with the transfer of a large practical task to your home

The second meeting is devoted to working with the basic figure of the father - in the format of a special technique

(By the way, having preceded it in a previous publication, I promised to leave this practice in the next (that is, in this) article. Note that the technique is variable, but it can be presented like this - I will present the material in a special video on the resource.)

In today's publication, we will talk about the next, chronological description, the third meeting in a row. This session is logically dedicated to working with maternal introjects

First, let's explain this important, basic concept.

Introjection (from Lat. Intro - inside and Lat. Jacio - I throw, put) is an unconscious psychological process related to the mechanisms of psychological defense. The term was coined in 1909 by the Hungarian psychoanalyst Sandor Ferenczi. Introjects are external messages that are taken inwardly without critical analysis or reflection. Parental messages are the earliest introjects, largely shaping the subsequent scenario of the educated personality.

Now let's get back to our story …

The woman's mother, having received an unstable and drinking husband as her husband, soon divorced her tormentor by the birth of her daughter and for the rest of her life, directly or indirectly, postulated the following program settings to her daughter:

- "men are weak and losers", - "a woman's share in a marriage with a man is a bitter sorrow", - "man's love is a fiction, a fable", - "a woman needs to rely only on herself", "there is no faith in men", - "spousal marriage is synonymous with a manufacturing defect."

And further in the same spirit …

The material received from the mother was firmly implanted into the subconscious of her daughter. And what do you think influenced the further of this girl? In the most defining way! All the implanted introjects were latently shaping my client's script. How sad!

The conclusion that such a life program can hardly be called a happy ticket to a good family future, in my opinion, is on the surface … What to do?

To revise the program instructions based on the following defining principle: "Mom is a separate person from me, with her own conclusions and views, her script is shaped by her fate, I am not a mother and my fate should not depend on other people's messages and attitudes."

Negative prescriptions are usually written out on a special, worklist and ritually burned or thrown into the trash can, with a rigid rejection of fate-destroying algorithms.

Further, a new program list is considered, compiled and adopted - another Pass to Life, which, firstly, is clearly traced by close positive experience, secondly, it is useful and desirable for the client, and thirdly, throughout the subsequent time it is convincingly appropriated by the individual as a new, constructive part of a positive attitude towards life.

Let's start by drawing up a happy Journey to Life. Our gold list may include the following program formulas:

- "men are Knights and Heroes", - "marriage is a happy island of life", - "love is a wonderful part of a woman's story", - “husbands are a reliable support for marriage”, - "a woman is very happy in relationships with men."

And so on, in a formative, positive way.

How do you start taking messages like this into action? There is one simple, effective practice for the formation of resource qualities of character. I will leave readers with an introductory video recording this technique. With the help of the proposed practice, you can positively correct - improve the personal image. Those who wish can include the technique in their psychological piggy banks. The video will be posted on the resource.

Well, and then, from day to day, affirm the emerging, improved image in your practical life.

In essence, the presented strategy is the path of self-education, self-improvement and self-development with the assumption of personal responsibility for oneself and the quality of one's life.

Further solution of the discussed request in the future material.

To be continued…