Technology For Solving One Classic Query. Part 1. Work And Farewell To Bad Experiences Of The Past

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

In this publication, I will tell readers about the successful solution of one recent, by the way, relevant to many, request, with which (due to the current circumstances) I have been working for only a month. The result, in spite of the brevity of the work, is quite convincing and bright. And it's not about me, as a psychologist, it's about the immense possibilities of my magical profession. I'll start over …

About a month ago, I was approached by my colleague, a citizen of a friendly (in Soviet times - Union) republic, now living and working in Europe. (We met and had our sessions on Skype.)

She is a successful specialist, attractive woman, respected person (middle age) - she wanted to improve her personal life with my professional help

The problem was that after several unsuccessful marriages, the woman avoided (didn’t let, didn’t allow herself) get closer to the opposite sex, and those, as if reading her mood, didn’t “burst into the doors that she closed”.

I'll tell you about our step-by-step work. I'll start over

If any of the readers have a similar request, you can follow the proposed scheme. At least tentatively, as a rehearsal work before visiting a specialist psychologist. The client and I succeeded (the results of the current period of the woman's life are a successful confirmation of this) - you will succeed too!

Stage one. Session one. Working and saying goodbye to bad experiences of the past

First of all, the client and I remembered all the previous relationships that were significant for a woman. There were several of them. According to the classical scenario, they began with a bright flash - very, very sublime, resulting in a civil marriage. Later, for some reason, the family ship, unfortunately, "gave a roll", and then - invariably "crashed." Divorce was difficult in all cases.

Throughout the initial session, the woman recalled in detail the nuances of her stories: how the previous relationship started, continued and ended.

In fairness, I note: the woman was cool to the past, she did not regret the breaks, she left the relationship herself. But in the footsteps of her stories, there was a strong feeling that the men abandoned by her - on the contrary, all as one - were still traumatized by a difficult break with her. This became for me and the client one of the possible, prompting hypotheses for resolving the request problem.

I am deeply convinced that unworked grievances from the past (our own and someone else's in relation to us) - "a stumbling block" lie between us and our future, blocking successful prospects for the future

Then, as a homework assignment, in the period between our sessions, I offered the client the following: deeply and consistently, according to a specially proposed scheme, to work out each of her relationships in order to, Firstly, alternately react, live and let go of all the emotions stuck in the space of the previous relationship;

Secondly, forgive the failed heroes from the past;

third, thank them for their valuable experience;

fourthly, divide and separate the spaces of the past and the current, freeing ourselves for the desired future.

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