Why Is It Better To Ask Your Question To A Psychologist Personally

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

WHY IS BETTER TO ASK YOUR QUESTION TO A PSYCHOLOGIST PERSONALLY, rather than looking for an answer on your own?

From my personal experience, I made just such a conclusion.

I do not want to devalue people and their abilities, and this is not what I am writing about at all. It's just that each person is an expert in their field. And quite often, when faced for the first time with a question that needs to be addressed to a psychologist, a person tries to cope on his own.

In this case, he faces the following consequences:

- incorrect diagnosis (recognition of the problem);

- the inability to cope with a non-existent problem (question);

- the existing question is not moving;

- no means of resolving the issue is found.

This leads to frustration, loss of vitality and time. And the main thing is that the issue itself remains unresolved.

It is important and necessary to cope with your life on your own, without outside help. But it is important to understand that this independence still needs to be learned. Unfortunately, until now, understanding your emotions, knowing how to manage them, understanding yourself are not compulsory school subjects. And this leads to the fact that an adult does not have the basic skills to build his own life. He does not know how to make decisions, set boundaries, say "no", defend his point of view in conflict and without it, accept other points of view, choose people and friends.

In fact, these basic skills should and can be passed on to children by their parents as they grow up, but often they don't.

And now, a grown person, the owner of an immature personality, continues to use child-parental forms of relationships: to take offense, manipulate, become attached. This is a direct road to an immature, codependent relationship in which attachment is considered love, and a person is willing to sacrifice much, if not everything, just to stay close. Relationships in which self-betrayal is the norm are doomed to inevitable separation.

When a person begins to look for answers to his questions on his own, then his perception as a whole hinders the ability to find the correct answer. First of all, such a moment as the inability to take responsibility for one's feelings, transfer-projection onto another, the desire to manipulate, and do not allow finding and seeing the reason in oneself and rebuilding one's behavior from the habitually childish to the adult.

The second reason is that each question has its own nuances and, perhaps, only partially resembles the situation described by someone. When you ask your question to a psychologist, you are already asking with your personal characteristics, and therefore the answer will be adjusted by the psychologist specifically for your situation.

And this does not mean at all that you do not have to be an independent person. Just have to, and even more so. You will only be directed to the place where you need to look for the answer, they will show you the direction, and you will already go through the whole path, recognizing and controlling yourself.

And, when you are already trained in recognizing and understanding yourself, then it's time to live with full reliance on yourself.

This means that you can clearly formulate and define your inner questions, you know where it is better for you to go with them or what to read, you know how to use your will to rebuild or study regularly. Self-reliance means that you take responsibility for feeling, understanding, choosing.