2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The nineteenth habit of a healthy person is the habit of building spontaneous positive expectations about oneself.
All people in the world can be roughly divided into three categories: on optimists, pessimists and rational pessimists. Optimists believe in what's best. Pessimists assume that the best is over. And rational pessimists (they are realists) do not believe in anything, they abandon their feelings in favor of logic and control.
Criticize, devalue, look for cons in what you have to do.
Does the forecast promise sunny weather today? Remind yourself that we have isolation
Has someone invented something useful? Make an emphasis on the fact that personally you will not see the fruits of any inventions soon.
Have you made plans for today? Find several reasons why things will go wrong today.
More. Look for difficulty. Don't trust people. Listen to yourself, look for signs of all imaginable and inconceivable diseases. Be prepared for the fact that you or other people will definitely screw up. Look for danger. Look for hypothetical dangers. Point out to people everything that is bad that they do not notice. Remember death and the ways to achieve it.
Briefly speaking. Everything will be bad. And you, unfortunately, know about it
The instruction for the realist is also simple: control, control and control again …
You need to know everything, understand everything, see all possible risks, be aware of all current events. It is important for you to predict the people around you, to anticipate events, the reactions of others to your decisions and actions. You must have an opinion on all possible events.
Briefly speaking. Everything is complicated, but you are aware of this …
But the optimist's instruction is the most … complicated. Look for opportunities in any situation.
There is a way out in any situation. This exit can be found. You have a chance. There may be several pleasant options for the development of events. You can always find the best way out. You can look at the situation from different angles, one side definitely smells better than the others. Can't walk in a straight line? Look for workarounds! Look for help! Look for an angle from which you can benefit.
Briefly speaking. It's important for you to be spontaneous. And direct your spontaneity to the light that you may have today.
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