Ungrateful Children Or How To Make Your Dreams Come True Through A Child

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

We invest so much in our children, we try so hard to make them have everything. We give all of ourselves, energy, time, imagination, money, often sacrifice something for them. Festivities, mugs, toys, clothes, reading, games, cinema, theater … so many things. And everything is not enough for them. But there are no words of gratitude. Well, how can everyone not lose the desire to give in this? How not to be disappointed in what you do for them? Where to get the strength from if you don't feel, don't see the desired response?

Have you raised ungrateful children? It seems to be not. After all, they are happy in the process. They are smiling. After all, he admires some garbage donated by his grandmother (a notebook or a pen, for example). They know how, nevertheless, they have it.

Give a little? You can, of course, speculate on this topic … But we give what is, what we can. No more.

What do we give? Here it is important to ponder over the question, whose desires, dreams and needs are we realizing? Like children? There are many examples when we strive to create a holiday for a child, but we create it in the image and likeness of "what I did not have". And in your life too.

The result - mom is high, dad, most likely, too. Child? Great if it coincided. And if not? What about a gift you don't need? To portray joy? Well … mom, she sees everything, recognizes the substitution. And they can't portray emotions yet. So it turns out that parents live in the feeling that either they themselves are doing something wrong, or the child is wrong.

Of course, the ideal option would be to implement what the son or daughter needs, and not our parents dream. Then everything is smooth and clean, you will not find fault. The efforts are invested - the return is received. The child received what he wanted, gave his parents the opportunity to feel good. Just a picture from a movie about a happy family. Great, but not always successful.

What about other cases? When you can't understand, get to the bottom of what he or she needs? What will really be a joy - a dance club or a martial arts? Or when you realize that Wishlist are Wishlist, and you have your own dreams - well, when to realize them, if not now? Selfishness? Yes! Well, let!

It is only important to admit this in time. But this is not easy. Indeed, in this case, it turns out that I am some kind of wrong mother. Instead of the needs of the child, I realize my own. Through the child. You can, of course, in this place talk about how you need to realize your dreams yourself. But how do you go to jump on a trampoline without a child - it's kind of strange, right? We take it with us, of course. But just do not expect enthusiasm from HIM. Expect delight from YOURSELF. If the child is happy, coincidentally, great!

And if not, try just once to admit to yourself and to him that you want this. And you also want, well, very much, to share such a pleasure with him. Believe and check - your children will be happy to share the pleasure with you. And they themselves will receive it. They can be happy for you, have fun, get infected with your mood. And, importantly, they will be able to learn from you to please themselves.

But do not force the child alone to do what you want or once wanted to you. It's not fair, let's face it. Did you want to play hockey? Take the club and the child - and go. Just do not give your son to the hockey section, but watch yourself from the bench and make comments. This is how dreams don't come true. This is how your dissatisfaction and "prison" is born from your desires for the child.