2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Happy and safe childhood
starts with happy
and safe parents!
Safe parents.
The terrible truth is that the main danger to children is their parents. Their parents quarreling among themselves! Which, even sincerely loving their children, can hurt them unbearably. It's terrible when two people closest to children - their mom and dad, fight until they bloody right in front of their eyes. It hurts to hear when children say: “We love mom and dad very much, but it’s better for them to live apart, because they cannot be together! When they argue and fight until they bleed, we are scared! We cry and are afraid that they will kill each other! It is unacceptable when children try to stand between conflicting parents, and receive blows and severe psychological trauma that remain with them forever, negatively affect their future own family relationships.
Use seven principles to protect your children and yourself from domestic violence:
1. Start with yourself! Agree in your pair that under no circumstances will you raise your voice at each other, you will not insult and use violence! And strictly follow this rule, no matter how you want to break loose. Do not return blow for blow and know how to remain silent.
2. Stop arguing as soon as emotions start! As the tone of the dialogue becomes harsh, immediately suggest pause and return to the discussion later. And do not put pressure on a partner who does not want to discuss something yourself. After all, half of the breakdowns in the family are simply due to the fact that someone demands an answer immediately and cannot stop.
3. If the situation is tense, go out to a public place together. If you are under pressure, offer to take a walk outside, go to the store, the park, or buy coffee. The presence of other people quickly extinguishes dangerous voltages.
4. Do not give up the use of diminutive and pet names and nicknames accepted in your pair. Kitty will not beat Fuzzy and vice versa!
5. Do not remember the past! Any conflict situation in a pair should be considered in a separate order, without those generalizations, after which offensive epithets suggest themselves.
6. Spores and alcohol are incompatible! When there is alcohol - do not say anything to each other! There are mutual claims - to exclude alcohol!
7. Never raise your voice at each other in front of children! By the time the children are no longer around, someone from your couple will have calmed down and forgiven.
All this is not difficult, but thanks to this, your children will not cry at night, they will not want mom and dad to divorce, they will not say from childhood that they will never, never marry and never get married. And most importantly, they will love you, not afraid to approach you, not fearing that they will be hit, kicked out of the house or made witnesses to domestic violence. And for this, moms and dads must do anything! After all, a happy and safe childhood for our children begins with happy and safe parents.
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