Five Components Of Children's Happiness

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

When raising children, we sometimes worry about things that really mean little to them. Do you know exactly what is really important for your child !?

Like many other parents, we tend to worry about things that really mean so little! Well, most likely, our children will not remember every detail of the home environment or our beautiful garden, whether our refrigerator was filled with products of famous brands or the most ordinary ones. Let's focus on what's really important. If you want to know what your kids will remember about you, here's what it is:

1. THE TIME WHEN THANKS TO YOU, THEY FEEL SAFE.

Every child at an early age needs protection, and you are adults that create this feeling. Children, like a sponge, absorb the states of their parents and cannot, due to their age, separate them. The child feels what the parent feels. The world of mom and dad is also the world of a child. Do your best for the child to feel, for normal development, safety and security next to you. It is important for the development of this feeling, the state inside your son or daughter, the more the child feels it, the better for him. And after a while it will become familiar.

2. PAY MAXIMUM ATTENTION TO THE CHILD.

Children are very sensitive to adult attention and measure love in this category. Those moments in life when you were "absorbed" by your child will be remembered by him for a lifetime. Try to find time for games, study, walks, look for general topics that are important to the child.

3. RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE (MOM AND DAD)

The relationship between parents is the material from which the child will build his own life. Children form their concept of love, for the most part, by observing how parents communicate with each other and how they relate to each other. And if there is warm love and harmony between parents, then for children the world around them will be reliable for more warm and filled with joy and love. Learn to "adults" to build their relationships also on the principle of mutual support.

4. YOUR WORDS OF APPROVAL BECOME "COACH" FOR THE CHILD.

Children are soft sponges that absorb all the information from the world around them, absorb everything first of all from their parents. Children form their identity and self-esteem, an idea of their potential, relying heavily on the words that you say to them in the first years of life. Therefore, praise your child as much as possible and encourage him, especially when something at first does not work for him. Because your words will one day become his inner voice, support and guide in life. There is a "coaching" principle of motivation: praise-praise. Instead of a stick and a carrot. If the child does something that he thinks is wrong, reassure him, then praise him, tell him what he did well, and then what has not yet worked out, but will definitely work out. Then tell your child what you would do, then praise again. There is one important condition here, you yourself must believe in it both at the level of consciousness and unconsciously too. Do it more often, kindly, gently and caringly, thereby forming a high self-esteem in the child, and the ability to cope with difficulties, to bring the work started to the end.

5. FAMILY HOLIDAYS AND TRADITIONS

Children love spontaneity, unpredictability, creativity, and at the same time more they strive for constancy and predictable events. In trainings and therapy groups, many clients recall the experiences of their early years and those events that had a strong positive positive impact on them. Adults with great warmth remember the traditions that were established in the family: going to the cinema, to attractions, to cafes, Sunday dinners, trips out of town, general vacation at sea. Children very often carry these traditions into their families.