Why Is It Important For Children When Parents Laugh, Or How To Teach Children To Improvise

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Almost everyone has a friend who tells the same joke every time and laughs loudest. It’s a big job for him to make you laugh with something other than this anecdote. Or, when communicating with him, you discuss only real events from his life. And, almost certainly, these events are monotonous and boring. Meet! It's him! A person without a sense of humor and the ability to spontaneous dialogues

After all, a sense of humor is not only the ability to make you laugh. This is, first of all, intellectual work, the ability to improvise and an indicator of erudition

Mom took me out of the bath and put me on the bed. It occurred to me that I was wearing a big ball gown, I was a princess and I was at the ball. I began to weigh curtsies, holding the imaginary crinolines. Mom laughed, but I was so pleased that I made her happy! That she could somehow thank her for her warmth and love. It was a kind of payment for care. Make mom laugh, give her laughter as a reward, please. And in return, get a sense of my own importance and self-respect, because at that moment I felt like the funniest comedian and, undoubtedly, a gifted actress! Then, of course, I did not understand this … But, what I was bursting with happiness and pride, I can say with full confidence!

Children often try to make us laugh, tell a funny story, come up with a fable or set up a comic situation, and finally, just make a funny face. But these jokes are not always funny enough for us, due to the immaturity and inexperience of young jokers. Often we, adults, take it for granted and do not react to the child's intellectual work! And, gradually, we kill in them the confidence in the ability to be funny, their belief that they can be liked. We affirm them in the thought that they are not able to come up with something worthwhile. Then children simply stop inventing new jokes, and their sense of humor remains in that stage of development when laughter causes a classmate (classmate, colleague …) to fall into a puddle …

What to do? Play artificial laughter? Or put on a smile from ear to ear like a supermarket clerk?

It is much easier to just understand how your kid tried to make you laugh, how he came up with a joke, how he expects your reaction and values it! How much your smile means to him. Remember how you yourself value the laughter of your mother, and how your heart rejoices when you manage to make her laugh and cheer her up.

When we remembered the reasons for laughter, let's work on how to really laugh with something. There are a lot of exercises and games for children that help develop imagination, ingenuity, find non-standard solutions, see "through objects" and IMPROVISE!

First of all, try to broaden your child's horizons. Not only the depth of knowledge is important, but also the range of knowledge, erudition. I often hear from my student musicians: “Why do I need mathematics? I will play the piano all my life! I'm not going to study history and literature! And physics is generally a useless subject! It is worth explaining to the child that each person has both hemispheres of the brain, and both need equal load and exploitation. It's like, for example, I'm right-handed, so I won't develop my left hand, let it hang around idle. As a result, the muscles on the two arms will be of different sizes … But this is only half the trouble! Just think, who needs a creative interior designer who cannot calculate the scale and make a drawing? Or an engineer incapable of inventing? Nobody needs specialists who think in a formulaic way.

Observe your child and try to figure out what is most interesting. Take him to theaters and exhibitions. Buy encyclopedias for kids. Let your child choose the book himself. If your prankster reached for comics or a bright magazine, then buy on condition that he also chooses a couple of books from those offered by you.