2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Remember every teacher in the school chose their favorites?
They clearly singled out someone and helped them in every possible way, many could notice some subjectivity in this. And someone completely fell out of favor. Of course, most often the second category of students did not really want to study, they could disrupt lessons, etc. In some cases, the whole school knew about them. And it also happened that very good children were not favorites, it just so happened that the teacher did not favor them.
School years are over, and favorites and non-favorites are always with us.
Who are they?
These are our emotions, character traits, reactions, behavior in communication with others, thoughts. We divide all this into good and bad, guilty and innocent, I love myself like that and hate in other things. We adore something in ourselves, cultivate, we want it to completely absorb us and we become ideal representatives of society. And we reject something from ourselves, fight, try to get rid of it, hide it in the far corners and hide it from everyone.
At school, it so happened that there were teachers who were imbued with general non-favorites and helped them. In this way, these children could feel that someone was accepting them.
We don't do that to ourselves. There are no lawyers inside us. And if they are not inside, then there is hardly any outside either. The outside world will constantly reflect our own struggles to us. He will not agree with our non-favorites. And the more we rely on someone from the outside, the more we become strict teachers for ourselves.
I already wrote once that we can hide from other people, avoid them, reduce communication with them, but we cannot do this with ourselves. We are defenseless against ourselves. Therefore, it is imperative to cultivate an inner advocate.
- You have the right to show any emotion.
- You have the right to make mistakes.
- You have the right to have thoughts of your own that are different from others.
- You have the right to bad, stupid habits.
- Separately, I will write that you have the right to resentment, anger, rage, anger, hatred.
- You also have the right to chatter something wrong, wrong, off topic.
In general, the main thing is not to harm. You are truth in your manifestation. You do not offend anyone, do not interfere with the lives of others.
Be your own lawyer. If not you, then who? Who will give the right to live what is in you?
Even if you hurt the feelings of another, this is not a reason to blame you. It is enough just to apologize, hear someone else, and at the same time not engage in self-flagellation. The interlocutor can have their own reaction to you, and that's good. However, his reactions should not make you feel rejected by any part of you. She should not call a non-pet on the carpet to the director and scold him severely.
How should your lawyer proceed?
1. Don't make excuses. Don't tell yourself "but I'm very good at this and that." It is a juxtaposition and comparison that underestimates rather than accepts. It is enough to say to yourself "yes, I am like this", or "and this is how I am too."
2. Be on your side. Yes, the situation can be unpleasant because of our actions. And we return to point 1 "and so I can be." Relationships with others are dear to me, and I do not want to spread rot on myself for being wrong in something. Any situation can be solved if people want a relationship, be it friendship, family ties, or couples. None of our parts is an obstacle in a relationship as long as both sides want it. And this is another reason to be on your side.
We all have a wise inner advocate.
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