2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Regardless of whether he is grandiose or hidden, the task of the narcissist will be the same: to unload from his psyche and "hang" on another person those parts of his character, thoughts, behavior, motives with which he cannot cope or accept.
For many of them, this is aggression, weakness or envy. Although there are often positive traits, such as strength or achievement. But even their narcissists cannot afford to use them, since even in childhood, their parents laid a certain program in them. For example: money is dirt, a career is a shame. And, since his natural set of positive and negative qualities in a narcissistic personality is supplanted by prohibitions in the unconscious, in order to be himself, he tries to place these parts of character on someone.
The narcissist chooses a specific person as the bearer of his projections and unconsciously unloads on him, contenting the features inherent in himself. But what is interesting is that different people can also become a hanger object - separately for the positive and the negative.
For example, on one child out of two, the mother projects the good qualities that SHE would like to have. And the dyrugoy acts as a scapegoat, and in him she sees all her shortcomings. At the same time, the parent does not notice the true character traits of the children.
A narcissistic personality is always a split psyche that does not allow one to be real. Such a person does not even know what he really is. Always wears a mask and tries to meet the expectations of others
If you notice that a loved one, partner, friend, parent endows you with qualities that are not peculiar to you, then a narcissist is next to you.
He can accuse of envy, dishonesty, aggression. And vice versa - to idealize you and endow you with the qualities of a superman, to put you on a pedestal.
Both are false and have consequences. Such a relationship will never be open, sincere, warm and trusting.
And most likely the narcissist will simply destroy the personality of his victim.
If there is a daffodil next to you. Take care of yourself, distance yourself.
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