2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In the field of money, as in any other, problems arise when we have multidirectional desires. On the one hand, I want money, on the other - "they went to the forest." For some, making money requires effort, a responsibility that a person is not ready for. Someone is afraid of envy, that they will turn away, offend, take away, etc. If a person has a ban on desires, he has no motivation to make money. Accordingly, there is no money either. If the first desire - "to have money" is easily realized, then with the second - "not to have", everything is much more complicated. So, there can be many reasons for not having money. One of the most common obstacles to achieving a goal is the fear of being different from your parents. The opportunity to face parental disapproval stops us in many endeavors. This fear cannot be called rational, because an adult does not need approval. It is necessary for our Inner Child, that part of the personality that influences all our actions and inhibits us when it becomes scared. This Inner Child is afraid to displease the parent, and therefore become bad and unloved. Practical example. The client's permission to publish has been received. Elina is a young independent woman. She has her own business. However, Elina noticed that her interest in making money declined about six months ago, one might even say, completely disappeared. Which, of course, affected income. - I want money, - Elina says. - Imagine that you have money. As much as you want. Draw the resulting picture. - Association - I am swimming in money.
- What do you feel looking at the drawing? - Joy. I feel good. - What prevents you from turning this image into reality? What kind of memory appears? - I remembered a situation from my childhood. I am six years. Dad brought money, a lot of money. Mom was as happy as a child, she threw money into the air. And then my dad started having heart problems, he ended up in the hospital. I see the hospital corridor and I feel the fear that my dad is going to die. - What conclusion did the little girl make then? - Big money leads to loss of health.
- Is it true that big money is followed by punishment? - I think that if you make money with pleasure, doing what you do well, you will get moral satisfaction, not punishment. I used to make money with pleasure - What events happened in your life six months ago when you started having money problems? - Everything was fine, I bought an apartment, a car. - And at the same time, your wealth has become obvious. Are you more successful than your parents? So when your parents saw your success, you started to reduce your income? - Responds. Oh, it became difficult for me to breathe. I cannot be more successful than my parents, then they will not love me. I know it sounds silly, but it's true. I'm afraid of their disapproval. - How does the father in the picture perceive the rich daughter? - He does not care. He is in the hospital and absorbed in himself. - What changes when the father recovers?
- What will help him grow up? - Passport as a reminder of his real age.
- How does your father feel about the idea that money provides great opportunities? - He thought about it. I agree. Money is an opportunity. He lets me have money, a lot of money. But, earning them is easy and fun. - The girl in the first picture throws money, and in your memory, your mother threw the money that her father brought her. Who is shown in the picture - you or mom? - I do not know. I have a feeling that sometimes I really cannot tell where I am and where my mother is. What is my desire and what is my mother's? What is my belief and what is my mother's? Since childhood, I tried to be like my mother in everything, so that she would love me. - How can you understand with the help of a drawing that you and your mother are different people? - I will draw my mother next to my father. And I am a girl bathed in money. Now I see that these are two different people.
- Mom feels fear, she is afraid of losing her husband and at the same time is angry that her dreams of a wealthy life have crumbled. - Have you made your mother's dreams come true? Have you achieved in your life what she dreamed of for YOURSELF? - Yes, but I cannot be more successful than my mother. It means betraying her. - What does mom want when she sees that her daughter has money? - She knows how bad it is when there is no money and allows me to have money. She says, "I allow you to have a lot of money." When inside a person there is a feeling that his actions are supported by his parents, this makes his life much easier. But, in some cases, we are moving towards the goal, despite the parental prohibition. It is much more difficult, but we ourselves determine our own path. Elina was able to obtain permission from her parents for financial success. In therapy, these were imaginary parents, then the feeling of support passed on to real parents. Elina developed an interest in her own business, she plunged into work with pleasure, and her income began to increase. Other articles about money: How to change your attitude to money. Working with a drawing. What prevents you from having money? How the Inner Woman affects a man's generosity. If the husband works a lot and earns little.
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