2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
We are constantly in a situation of choice.
We make many choices automatically, without even noticing it - to eat or not to eat, and what to eat, what to wear, go or not go, or maybe run …
We have a need for food and when it becomes actualized, we automatically satisfy it. And then I thought - if there is a need for love, protection, acceptance - then perhaps, making a choice in favor of satisfying this need, we also often act automatically, that is, as we learned in childhood.
A child is almost always deprived of choice, he is forced to simply adapt to the environment, to the requirements of adults, for him it means “to survive”. And we carry this childish, habitual, learned automatic choice into adulthood.
And often we do not even suspect that we can choose another, and there is actually a lot of this “other”
In any case, no matter what choice a person makes, this is the most optimal choice for him at the moment, based on his internal resources at the same moment. It is these internal resources that make the choice the only possible one.
Not the only possible of the existing, but the only possible for implementation. Because theoretically there are many choices. But based on my inner resources, from my experience, from the level of my development at the moment, I can only make such a choice. Perhaps after a while it will seem wrong to me, but I will be different after a while. And therefore I will not reproach myself for that choice. And in this there is a great understanding of oneself, self-acceptance and love.
And of course the classic - there is no right or wrong choice, there is only a choice and its consequences. Consequences are the cost of choice, which is sometimes too high. But there are also acquisitions for which I am ready to pay this price. And if I survived, then I did everything right.
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