I Do Not Know What I Want

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

It is often difficult for people to answer the question about their desires. It seems to be not difficult, especially since society, with its principles of consumption, can quickly and intelligibly explain what to want. As soon as you turn on the TV, it will immediately become clear to you that you need a cool car, prestigious housing, money for a carriage, a generous man or a sexy woman. These are indicators of success, so what else do you want?

A friend of mine once wrote in social media. networks such a status "I do not want to be successful, I want to be happy." I honestly really liked it. After all, it is our desires, or rather their fulfillment, that affect the state that we call happiness.

And if it is difficult (and sometimes impossible) for us to determine our desires, then what kind of happiness can we talk about. Of course, you can try not to think about it, because it really hurts and scares when you don't know what you want for yourself.

To avoid such pain and fear, sometimes people try to deceive themselves in different ways. Someone goes naked to work, others in family problems or raising children. Some people prefer to replace such thoughts about themselves by watching TV shows. There are also options for having fun with alcohol or drugs, in noisy companies, where it is supposedly fun. But all this is deception. First of all, this is how people try to escape the pain that grows when our desires are not fulfilled.

Strange as it may seem, but people are very often simply afraid to desire. Remember in childhood: "You never know what you want", "You want a lot - you will get little", we were forbidden to want, taking care of our safety. But it is strange that already adults use these same attitudes when it comes to their adult desires.

Behind all desires, we have that very inner child who knows how to want and dream. But the trouble is that for some this child is sitting in a dark basement and has no right to anything, while for others, the connection with him is almost completely lost. And this is part of you, your personality.

In the prohibitions on our sincere desires, the surrounding and close people play an important role. After all, our desires may, they will not like it, which means. we will not get their approval. Although sometimes it happens that you blow off the roof and do something that makes you feel good, and those who are nearby, to put it mildly, are at a loss. But only then you begin to gnaw and blame yourself.

Everyone knows that drug addiction has dire consequences. So dependence on the opinion of even close people regarding your own desires can have no less sad consequences.

There is such an expression “The soul asks”, in my opinion, this is just about desires. After all, desires and needs (to drink, eat, have fun) are, in fact, different things. Try to ask yourself, your soul, your inner child: "What do I, exactly I, as a person, really want?" Everyone's desires are very personal, you should not be afraid that they may not fit into the usual hobby patterns.

Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.