2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
1. No priority of sleep
Recently, there has been a tendency for parents to minimize the importance of sleep. For normal development, the child must get enough rest. The tightening of the regime in the form of restrictions in this regard is not an indicator of sustainability. Not getting enough sleep negatively affects behavior; it also impairs mental function and has been correlated with weight gain over time. The recommended minimum is eight and a half hours for an older body and from 11 to 12 hours for younger children (from 5 to 12 years old). In real terms, this means that at the age of 15, a child who should wake up by 7 o'clock in the morning must be in bed no later than 10:30 pm, and at 10 years old - by 20:00 in order to be rested by morning.
What to do: think over the daily routine with your child. Plan periods of activity and rest, include extracurricular activities, lessons, household chores. If you see that your child's commitments are currently cutting back on healthy sleep, you must help him make the tough choices of lowering activity to buy some time for relaxation.
2. Eating outside the home
It often negatively affects family cohesion, nutritional quality and maintaining a healthy weight. In restaurants, especially fast food outlets, there are often distractions that interfere with communication and other relationship-building opportunities. And if the word "food" is rightly defined as a nutrient absorbed to support life and growth, some items on children's menu in restaurants barely meet this criterion. Research tells us that compared to meals prepared in restaurants, the nutritional value of food prepared at home is higher.
How to fix: a pre-cooked dinner will prevent the detour to drop into random taverns or fast food outlets before heading home. All you need is a two to four hour block on the weekends to prepare or complete four or five meals a week. Make a meal plan, make sure you have the groceries you need, and leave time on your weekend calendar. Be sure to stick to the regimen every week and refrigerate or freeze the pieces to keep them fresh.
3. Homework
Unlike other practices that can be blamed on parents, moms and dads who teach their children are often convinced that they support them. And they will be wrong. By doing so, you are depriving children of invaluable learning experiences and personal development opportunities. In addition, the difference in the quality of a student's work at home and at school does not escape the eyes of teachers. This is why it is time to end parental interference with learning. It not only sends a message to children that adults lack faith in their ability to achieve. But also laziness, often encouraging the child to shirk their academic responsibilities.
What to do: take time for the children before the difficult task, explain, prepare. And then give the opportunity to cope with the lesson on your own. If you want to test a son or daughter, use the interviewing technique. This will activate your z's thoughts about the work he has done, instead of giving him specific directives to fix. In cases where the task really exceeds the ability of your offspring, do not do it for him. Instead, discuss the situation with the teacher and find out the reason for this discrepancy.
4. Spanking
Most punish or approve of spanking, but the purported benefits are not supported by research. This method of education gives only short-term results. While the detrimental disadvantage is significant. Those of us who study the global and domestic data on physical punishment may come to one conclusion: it's bad for children. Sure, kids need discipline, but a non-hitting parent shouldn't be a wimp or someone who doesn't value obedience or structure. “Non-punishing” does not amount to “anti-discipline”. It is simply a position that physical pain for children is an unacceptable behavior modification strategy. Children who have been beaten are more likely to break the law and are more prone to depression. They are also more likely to "detach" from their parents and be more inclined to normalize violence as a way of solving problems.
Correction: Start with expectations and explain your thinking. Make sure your children understand what you think is appropriate and what you think is wrong. Then create a discipline plan that identifies the progressive, non-physical consequences for various types of inappropriate behavior. However, influence is not enough; bond with your kids. This is the key to helping them make the right choices. A strong bond between parents and children will lead your children to be more interested in your opinion and accept your values. Finally, think about methods to reduce stress and anxiety when you are frustrated or angry with your offspring. Yoga and meditation are great ways to increase self-awareness and self-control.
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