2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Once an acquaintance complained about his child. The boy went to kindergarten and was a very active child. His parents often scolded him. And now an acquaintance with indignation told another story. Since the child's activity was largely related to age characteristics, I recommended that the parent buy the book "Age Psychology" and scold his son less.
Not all parents are aware of age characteristics, but kindergarten teachers often "add fuel to the fire." In my opinion, they should help the parents and explain what is happening with the child. Actually, they learned to do it. To be honest, I was surprised by their reaction. After all, an experienced specialist, or at least one who read literature in the process of education, knows the age characteristics of children. As for the kindergartens, there is not much to learn there, only the age is from 3 to 6 years.
So, a lot can depend on the correct behavior of the educator, both in a particular age period of the child, and his reactions and perception in the future.
Thanks to the story of my friend, I wrote my own, which will be useful to many young parents.
Story 1
The little girl was playing in the sandbox. She was absolutely happy. She had everything she wanted. This sand, shovels, rakes, bucket, figurines for modeling. And she also had water to wet this sand, and try how it differs from dry.
There was a scooter next to the sandbox. She chose him herself. She really liked him.
And my mother was also nearby. And then dad will come.
However, this was not the only thing that made her happy. Her parents satisfied her curiosity. They let her show them the girl she is. They knew her.
But the most important thing in this, the girl discovered her own world for herself. So still clean and without social rules, norms, stereotypes and patterns …
Story 2
The little boy was very curious in the kindergarten. He was always interested to see if the girl looked like him. Being very sociable, during quiet hours, he negotiated with girls and other boys to satisfy his curiosity. Nothing unusual, all children play these games. This is required by their age characteristics.
So, they played, they played until the teacher noticed them. And how she screamed at everyone. And the kids took and pointed to the boy as the main instigator. After all, they became very scared. And then the kids told their parents, because they were told that it was WRONG to play such "awful", "bashful" games.
The boy's father scolded him severely. He even talked about the punishment in case of a repetition of the situation. And she repeated, because curiosity and activity were stronger than self-discipline …
The boy grew up, became an adult youth, a man. He entered into relationships with girls. And when it came to intimacy, something unpleasant was firing inside him. Everything seemed to be fine, but he did not get the expected pleasure.
If parents (first of all), educators and nannies in kindergarten read age psychology, they would understand that children simply learned the world. At this age, playing like that is CORRECT, NORMAL. Then the boy would satisfy his curiosity along with the rest of the children from the group, and as an adult he would not heal this trauma with his therapist.
I wish every parent to understand the psychological processes of their child.
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