2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The feeling of one's own worth and dignity, and with them the joy of living, where they come from - of course, from childhood. It is in early childhood that we are loved not for something, but just like that - because we are. Any movement of the baby pleases and touches the parents and all the immediate environment. A smile, movements of arms and legs, humming causes a stream of joy and delight.
Gradually, as the child grows, the parents express more joy when he demonstrates some kind of achievement. And they are less and less happy with the mere existence of a child. This is neither bad nor good, it is in our culture, in our world. But for healthy development we need both. It is from the unconditional joy and love of the parents, through the joint experience of this feeling with them, that the baby learns that he is valuable and loved, as he is and simply because he is.
But besides this, the baby also gets the experience that parents feel special joy and pride when he does something and he succeeds. Experiencing these feelings and emotions together with parents helps the child move further in mastering various skills and abilities.
What does a 4-year-old child look like when he is pleased with himself and proud of what he has done? He stands with his back straight, his shoulders relaxed and his chest straight. He exudes pleasure in his accomplishments and pride in his entire body. He can happily run to his parents, knock himself on the chest and say - "This is me", "Look how I did."
When the baby feels that he is loved and welcomed just like that, from the fact that he is and that he is just that, his posture is also quite straight, his chest is open. He is open to receive and feel this joy and love. And it is unlikely that you will meet a child who is so loved and who feels the joy of life with a wheel back and strongly lowered shoulders.
Now remember with what posture you most often see adults around. The chest is more sunken inward, the shoulders are slightly forward, the back is in a semicircle. How much does such a person feel their own worth or the joy of their existence? Do you think his body reflects what he feels inside? What does your body look like? How do you feel now? Does the body express your condition?
In my experience, most often the body expresses what is happening within us. Can we regain the right to feel the joy of our own existence? Feel the value of the fact that I exist in this world? That I have some kind of special role, albeit not completely clear and understandable? That the world brought me to life and that is already wonderful? Of course we can.
When you think about these questions, what happens to your body? Does your chest open up? Are you allowing yourself to breathe more deeply and freely? Do your shoulders move a little to the sides and back? If you try to straighten your chest and straighten your back, how does your condition change? How does self-esteem change? Remember a moment when you were pleased with yourself and felt joy. What was going on inside you then? What did your body look like?
Sometimes by changing the posture of the body, posture, we can come into contact with those feelings and sensations that we experience with the corresponding bodily expression. We can remember those feelings in childhood when we were loved and perceived as the most precious and unique. We can take back such an important experience.
In our group “Body as a resource” we will explore this experience and other equally important topics. Join us! More about the group here
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