2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Periodically, at the forum and at consultations, the question of lack of strength, energy, if necessary, to work, to fulfill their duties to family members, arises. Where to get resources from? I bring to your attention a sketch.
Morning. It's difficult to get up, went to bed late yesterday. Rather, I went to bed normally, but I could not sleep. Medium lousy mood. It seems not bad, but without a spark. I don't want to do things. Where has the energy gone, which was still recently? Where to get the strength for business? Unclear. I don't want to do morning exercises. Although the usual morning practice. I don’t want to, but I must. And I also haven't made the bed. Yes, and you need to make yourself a normal breakfast, cook porridge. I don't want to either. I don't want anything. Eh.. and there is no joy, nothing motivates in the day ahead. What to do? HM…
- BUT I will not force you do exercises!
- Well. Good, of course, but you have to do it.
- No. You don't have to do it today. Allow me!
- …
- You don't have to cook porridge. I will not force you to do this. Make a couple of sandwiches!
- Can?
- CAN!
Examination. Two "booters" are ready, eat. What's happening? Feelings have changed. Energy flooded! The joy spreads inside: "I am not forced!" I can not do! Ha! I’m already running without any effort to make the bed, without even thinking about it. What else to do?! I turn on the music and begin to cheerfully do gymnastics. Ready. What else to do? What else?!
Everything. There is a resource:))
The simple "I won't force you" technique of emotional-imagery therapy is quite applicable in the course of life. If in childhood a child is not allowed to do what he wants, is forced a lot, he blocks his energy and gets used to acting "out of the way." Then he grows up, there is no dad or mom who is forcing him. And if there is, then they can no longer force it purely physically - he grew up. However, the outer parent becomes inner and continues to coerce. It spurs from the inside "it is necessary!" A person rationalizes: everything seems to be correct, in an adult way. Compulsion works, things are done, but inside is empty, energy is poorly replenished and depleted over time. This inner child continues to be suppressed, which means that there is no replenishment of energy. Simple words to myself:
"I will not force you" " I allow you to relax / have fun / laze around"(read, do nothing productive)" can!"
- work wonders, liberate the inner child and his energy. It begins to flow freely and naturally inside, giving strength to everything that is really needed.
Paradoxically, allowing ourselves not to do what we need to do, but to do what we want, we get the opportunity to do both!
If what you have written responds to you, try applying the technique to yourself. Perhaps this will help already.
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