2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
You've noticed that people often try to avoid things. And this is not about danger or unjustified risk, now, for example, it is fashionable to say that a crisis must be avoided. And people also avoid serious conversations, necessary decisions, clarification of relationships in a couple or with parents. They try to hide under a blanket, like in childhood, when they have to solve some difficult problem.
Usually people explain this by saying that they do not want to go to confrontation, that it is not time yet, they do not want to spoil relations, and they also give a lot of excuses, if not to say excuses. At the same time, they themselves understand that the problem will still have to be solved. But at the same time they cannot start this decision process themselves. They are waiting for the moment. At the same time, they suffer and literally waste their lives (the hours are ticking) to endure.
But there are no suitable moments, this is a fiction! You're just scared! After all, if this happens, and the problem begins to be solved or is solved, then you will no longer have a familiar and convenient pattern of behavior. You are afraid of confusion, because then you have to think, look for new ways in life. And most of it. And the new is always scary. And you remain in the same model, if not tougher.
The conversation is not about the comfort zone. In my opinion, a person should be comfortable, and comfort is very cool. How can you call a relationship comfortable, in which you are humiliated, or consider a job comfortable in which your boss insults or harass you, or communication with loved ones who devalue you and all your achievements? It's called another word.
At the same time, they often say that something is missing. What exactly they themselves do not know. After all, a person seems to have all the skills and abilities. And it turns out that more often than not, ordinary belief in oneself is lacking. Not even faith in a global sense, the simplest self-confidence is lacking. And we usually do not trust those whom we do not know. It happens that we even try to avoid communicating with such a person. It turns out that people avoid themselves. They run away from themselves.
How is your relationship with yourself? Weird question. However, sometimes it turns out that it is the answer to it that becomes the starting point in a person's life. After all, how well you know yourself depends on how much you trust yourself, and, accordingly, will be able to cope with some task.
Most often, attitudes towards themselves end in the fact that people ONLY criticize themselves, scold and kick. And when did you ask what is inside you about what he wants? Contact with yourself is necessary in order to live in harmony with yourself. But it’s impossible to be in agreement with someone you don’t know. Try talking to yourself today. Imagine an image of yourself sitting on a chair in front of you, ask him how he is doing, what he wants, maybe he needs help, he, it's you, you just forgot a little about it.
Live with joy! Anton Chernykh
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