2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
You have probably heard more than once that it is very important and necessary for any person to LOVE YOURSELF … And maybe you wondered - what is love for yourself? Why do you need to love yourself? Well, or at least like yourself…. accept yourself…. treat yourself well? There may be many answers, but first of all, it is NECESSARY and IMPORTANT for yourself, for your loved ones, for your children.
Self-love is the starting point from which to solve any problem. This is what any harmonious relationship is built on. This is what allows you to enjoy life 100%, choose the best for yourself and make the right decisions. All our joys, successes, failures, our whole life is built on it, as if we were building a multi-storey building on a solid foundation …
We all strive for love, we seek it, we need it. We are looking for someone who will love us and make us happy … And in this endless race for happiness, sometimes we forget about the most important thing - that we ourselves create our own life, we ourselves form the attitude of the people around us to ourselves! And if we do not love and appreciate ourselves - those around us, relatives, the Universe will not give us love … ☹️
They will treat us the same way we treat ourselves. This is how projective mechanisms work. To change the attitude of the world and other people, it is important to accept and love yourself, see your uniqueness and become the most valuable and dear person for yourself!
Here are the main markers that show that there are difficulties with LOVE FOR YOURSELF:
there is no understanding of what you want from life, it does not bring joy
often feel gloomy and tired, stuck in depression, fear, bad mood
neglect of one's own interests, hobbies and plans for the sake of others
no self-confidence and no self-confidence
a constant sense of control and no allowance to relax
it is scary to be uncomfortable, fear of showing your emotions, fear that you will not be accepted as you are
The main task is to understand that self-love can be developed! Don't be afraid to appear selfish. Selfishness is due to a lack of love, while you can only love yourself when you are in a state of abundance.
The birth of this miracle - LOVE FOR YOURSELF begins with the love of our parents for us … How do they treat the child - as a value, personality or as a loser, insignificant? After all, parents often, completely unconsciously, inflict mental wounds on us, which over time we project onto our partners and our relationships.
But we came to this world as CHILDREN - pure, open, loving, trusting, delighted. The person grows up, but the child remains inside. Over time, layers of our relationship with the world grow on this first clean layer. This is our whole childhood story. There may be our pain, hurt, hurt and fear. We write the entire life scenario until the age of 7.
Before our Soul 💫 came into this world, it planned for itself to complete certain tasks, go through lessons, distribute debts. Based on this, we chose our environment, parents, and even a family. As a child, we embodied this plan in miniature, as a preparation for future life. We have worked out a certain scenario that will be played all our lives over and over again, like a record until we realize, we do not see patterns, we don’t want to leave this circle. But how can you do this?
First, we need to establish contact with our Inner Child. He will teach us to be joyful and spontaneous. This is the part of our personality that requires protection, support and encouragement from us. We need to become a CARING AND SUPPORTING PARENT to ourselves, to say and do for ourselves what we always wanted to receive from our parents, so we will fill the deficiencies of childhood - attention, words of love, support, give ourselves a sense of security and importance.
Louise Hay, author of Heal Your Body, advises: “Start with easy questions: What can I do to make you happy? What do you want today? For example, a child can be told: "I want to jog", and he will answer: "Let's run to the shore." Communication will definitely improve. Show persistence. If you succeed, try to reach out to your child several times a day, and you will see that life is much better."
🌺 Start doing this every day for a month - and see what happens:
🧸-this is how we connect with ourselves, we learn to love ourselves again, we gain access to personal resources (openness to feelings, playfulness, expressiveness, confidence, ingenuity, curiosity, unconditional love)
🧸-this is how the history of your childhood is rewritten by living new pleasant sensations and filling your Inner Child with them
🧸-this is how the "Inner parent" develops in oneself
🧸-this is how the old energy leaves, everything that prevents us from being ourselves, prevents our Soul from manifesting. Instead, we are filled with new energy that we need to support and open, heal.
🧸-this is how we have the necessary strength for a new stage in life
But!!! We will do all this carefully, carefully, taking care of ourselves. We do not want to hurt ourselves even more, but we want to learn to love ourselves as we are (although, of course, we reserve the right to self-improvement) - and to love ourselves completely: body, mind, style, hobbies, lifestyle … the ability to take care of yourself, make your dreams come true, do what you love, respect your tastes and habits.
🌺 Well, if you are experiencing difficulties in rewriting your life scenario on your own, then I advise you to contact specially trained people - psychologists, with their help you can quickly make the desired changes in your life. And then, I assure you, you will be able to soar above the bustle of everyday life and with wide eyes look at the world as a myriad of new possibilities stretching before all of us from the moment of our first breath and accompanying us all our life!
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