Why Do Residents Of A Metropolis Begin The First Phrase In Communication With Denial ?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Today's difficult situation in society as a whole prompted me to think about why people within the walls of the stone jungle have become so indifferent to each other? Why, instead of colors and the joy of being, people have become gray chess pieces, day after day making monotonous steps in this big game called "LIFE"? Many do not notice, but people have become callous, deceitful and faceless. Often in our society, when asked about a request or help, people respond with denial, and the dialogue tends to start with a negative affirmation. This trend is gaining momentum and frightens with its coldness and dullness

This article is the result of my observations and in no way calls for the typical division into "good" and "bad" personalities. I just tried to identify and separate certain types of people who are characterized by a denying type of communication, and also tried to outline the steps in the analysis of the problems that predetermine such a behavior model. In my opinion, the cause of such repetitive behavior can be many objective criteria, including the person himself … You should know that there are such types of people as "deniers" who begin each of their phrases in communication with a denial. In contrast to such people, there are also such people of the metropolis who do the same, but they are not "deniers". In my essay, I will proceed from the division of people in a metropolis into several types, according to my point of view, and I will try to analyze these types, as well as understand the reason for their manner of communication. So, these are the types:

1. Deniers - people who do not know how to listen to others, stubborn and persistent, with a low level of empathy, accepting only their own point of view. They may behave in such a way as to manipulatively influence other people or emphasize their authority. Such a mechanism is always recognized by a person. The reasons why they do this are varied: from disrespect or dislike to banal stubbornness. Such people are always confident in themselves and their knowledge, they are often guided by their position and social status, or by their illusory subjective ideas about the world around them.

2. People without a purpose - they always doubt, being at the crossroads and in the cycle of events, they tirelessly try to find themselves and find out their opinion. Such people may have had problems with identification during adolescence, or they may simply not be confident in themselves. They hesitate and therefore denial arises in their speech, because they themselves do not know what they want from life, from themselves. they are difficult to adapt, conformable and malleable, such people are easy to manipulate, denial serves as their protection from uncertainty. Through negative phrases, they show their continuity to the whole world.

3. People in fear - such people often unconsciously use denial in communication, but options for conscious use are not excluded. In this case, a person is protected from horror, fear, pain, psychological and mental trauma of childhood. Denial in such people is a kind of protective, adaptive mechanism in order to survive in this stone jungle and not let anyone into their world, in order to avoid injury. Such people use negation in speech only in the external world, unaware that the inner world, their psyche, changes radically, adjusting to the surrounding conditions. That is, the psyche includes the function - to survive in spite of everything, to close, to fence off. The consciousness of such a person is susceptible to the painful conditions of the environment and therefore letting fears into life, such people suffer, wasting their resources. The positive side of the coin is the psychological safety of a person in the event of a severely traumatic event.

4. Wrestlers are people who don't livebut always fighting on the battlefield. Such people pursue two goals - to attract attention to themselves and to emphasize the importance of their person. They are demonstrative, impulsive and to some extent sociable. they adapt quite easily, but have an abnormally high self-esteem. A subjective view of things sometimes makes it difficult to communicate with other people.

Thus, I divided people and tried to explain their behavior. In any case, denial in communication indicates either the agreement of the communicator and the recipient, or their disagreement. What is behind this - fear, protection, insecurity, conformity, transference, codependency, anger, discontent, justification. denial can also depend on the relationship between people, be it enemies, hidden rivals, subordinate-boss, teacher-student, child-parent. many factors influence denial, but it still seems to me that the relationship is between the personality traits of the individual and his relationship with the communicator, and the aspect of childhood is also very important.