Love Cannot Be Destroyed, Or How To Stop Self-destruction

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Lost at work? 5-6 cups of coffee a day, hunger and sedatives just to meet deadlines? Congratulations! Surely, you are the most valuable employee and the management appreciates you. Now let's come to the main question - how much do you love yourself? On a scale from 0 to 10 points. Thinking? Here is the first alarm bell. It will be a little difficult to realize this, but after reading this article, you will definitely overestimate the attitude towards yourself in general. And most importantly - stop destroying yourself!

Self-destruction - auto-aggression, auto-destruction - different terms, which are united by the main meaning. If you thought that we were talking only about a psychological subtext, this is far from the case, but such a reaction is really formed as a response to a powerful external stimulus, which potentially poses a direct threat to human life.

Most often, autoaggression is formed as a result of traumatic events of a different nature. Frustration, personal conflicts, physical and psychological violence - one way or another lead to the gradual launch of this process. Autogression as a psychological phenomenon is based on social destabilization combined with internal conflict. And there are many manifestations of this violation, on which we will dwell in more detail.

1. Drug, alcohol or drug addiction. Any addiction is a deliberate choice. Therefore, you can get rid of it only by facing a problem. In this case, a person clearly understands what consequences such habits can have, but still continues to influence by any means. In other words, he is trying to make himself even worse in order to protect himself from more aggressive factors with less traumatic actions (in his opinion) (severe stress, loss of loved ones, lack of self-realization, etc.).

2. Workaholism. If you disappear for days at work, work without vacations and weekends, and do not see anything else at all - the picture is very sad. Most likely you are running away from yourself as a punishment for something. Physical and emotional fatigue allows you to temporarily "forget" about your own problems, but when will it roll after?

3. Extremely aggressive behavior. It manifests itself in the fact that a person consciously chooses activities that are a threat not only to his own life, but also to the public. Driving fast in settlements, driving under the influence of alcohol, extreme sports are clear signs of an autodestructive disorder.

4. Dependence on a partner or loved one. If you literally cannot live without your spouse, or someone else, waiting for approval or praise from your loved one - it's time to think about why you are so uncomfortable with yourself. The reasons for such "antipathy" to oneself are sometimes very difficult to pull out, even with professional help.

5. Indifference to physical condition. Ignoring serious illness or injury, alarming symptoms and disruption in the work of one's own body - all these signs are also a consequence of auto-aggressive behavior. A person suffering from self-destruction never realizes the level of criticality of this sign. Sometimes the consequences can be fatal both for the individual and for the people around him.

6. Eating disorder - bulimia, anorexia, overeating - these manifestations of self-destructive behavior are most common. After all, we are all accustomed to "seizing" our emotions, and often do not notice how this gradually becomes a habit.

7. Physical self-loathing. Constant dissatisfaction with the state of appearance, focusing only on shortcomings, causing various injuries are very serious symptoms of destructive behavior. Professional assistance in this case should be comprehensive and individually oriented. First of all, we expose the reasons for not accepting ourselves and work with psychological blocks.

8. Excessive physical activity. Light exercise is a great way to maintain physical and emotional well-being. But when the loads become more serious every day and it is very difficult to get rid of this obsessive habit, the stress-limiting systems of the body are on the verge. There is a transition to a phase of exhaustion.

Now let's go back to the original estimate. How much do you love yourself? I am sure that after reading the above information, you accurately looked at the situation from a different angle. It is very difficult not to cross the fine line when the process will be difficult to stop. It will take a lot of resources to restore yourself. Accept, love and admire. Appreciate and cherish, no matter what. Just remember: the only person with whom you will have to live your whole life is yourself.