2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How many girls strive to be successful and beautiful. But so few girls think positively of themselves. There is a lot of research in this area that proves that our thoughts and our environment have a profound effect on our lives. But to start changing something, let's start with the environment.
Let's start simple, with your environment. Two factors are important in the environment:
1. What do important people and acquaintances tell you about you?
In one of the universities of psychology, they conducted a study. They invited different girls, but they were all beautiful, they carefully followed fashion and their appearance. Choosing one of all, the researchers attracted various of her acquaintances and strangers, who were supposed to get to know her and win her over. Every day one of these people said something negative about her appearance. That she looks bad. That she might be tired and she needs to rest. On another day, she was told: "Today you dressed something completely tasteless and chose very depressing colors." There was also a man of "evil", he was unfamiliar with the girl and his task was to pass by and draw her attention to the flaws in her appearance. For example: "Oh, how did you ever get into people with this." Since this study was conducted with the voluntary consent of the girl, she was obliged to see a specific psychologist three times a week. So that the specialist can monitor the mental state. Of course, the girl did not know what the essence of the study was. The point was to understand how a person's self-esteem changes when he gets into a toxic environment for himself, and how quickly it happens.
The result was not long in coming. After 21 days, the girl had a clear manifestation of a fall in self-esteem, she began to dress in dull colors, and began to spend more time at home. There are signs of anxiety and apathy. On day 28, she left the research team.
What was the conclusion. What from a bright, self-confident girl, after 28 days, you can make a dull, self-critical and apathetic girl. Being in a toxic environment puts ourselves in danger. More often than not, toxic people who constantly find some flaws in us, one way or another plant a seed of doubt in our self-esteem. And only by understanding and realizing this, we can get away from such people in time, or forbid them to say anything about us in a negative way. Agree, after all, any phrase can be said both with a positive vector and with a negative one. For example, a negative phrase: "Go sing, otherwise there is only one skin and bones, soon people will stop recognizing you" or here's a positive vector: "Go sing, because a well-fed person always looks happier and happier. And you are such a laughing matter for you. will eat now. " You notice that the meaning is the same, but what a different presentation.
2. The second factor is to pay attention to who is around you
In other words, what kind of people and with what way of life you are surrounded. Recently, a group of psychologists created an experiment on the basis of two dormitories. In the first one lived mainly girls who go in for sports and lead a healthy lifestyle, and in the second there lived overweight girls and had never played sports before. Psychologists offered to make an exchange. An overweight girl was placed in a hostel with athletic girls, and a girl doing sports was placed in her place. And they asked them not to change anything in their lifestyle. Imagine their surprise when, after three months, it turned out that the girl who played sports as usual gained 8% of her previous weight, and the one who was overweight lost 5%. The conclusion was obvious that the environment affects us. Although not significantly, it does.
It should be concluded if you want to change something, of course the first step is to realize this. And the desire to improve yourself and your life. Perhaps for a start, try changing the environment. And this will be followed by changes in your idea of both yourself and your life.
Remember, all change begins with ourselves.
Olga Karcher
Healthy Thinking Trainer
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