2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How often do we want to be good so as not to hurt another person. How often, we deceive ourselves and convince that only if I am good, I will be needed by others. And how painful it is when this myth is dispelled, when we find out how our brave and daring friend marries the man she dreamed of, builds her business, develops as a woman and lives in harmony with herself.
The truth is, good girls are only needed to be comfortable for others. They do not think and do not realize what their true desires are, live the life of their loved ones, make their husbands ideal, burn out at work, are afraid to express their opinion. Further worse, sobs and tantrums begin, constant breakdowns and evenings spent with a pillow or with a bottle of wine. All this begins to happen because the inner woman is desperately trying to break free, and she is constantly drowned out, does not take into account her needs and desires, in addition, aggravating her health. So the wonderful years of life pass in servility to others and rejection of their personal desires. So it is sad to see beautiful, young, "conditionally happy" women who have decided to devote their lives to serving others and live someone else's life instead of their own.
It is great to be good when you do something useful for yourself and in the first place you get pleasure from it.
Have you ever thought about what could happen if you were given one day in your life in which you could do whatever you want, and no one would remember about it except you. What would you do then? You certainly would not please other people and do what you do not want. You would start by doing exactly what you want, and not what you need, you would say “no” to those requests that you could not refuse before, you would express everything that you have accumulated, you would behave the way you want, misbehaved, had fun, maybe even bathed in the fountain. And what would be the reaction of other people? Many would listen to you, would not turn away from you and would allow you to do what you want. Why? The answer is simple, you yourself have allowed yourself what you like and therefore other people have accepted you. Nothing is impossible, there are only personal limitations and fears, to show people your personality, to become, as you think, uncomfortable. And as soon as you allow yourself to do what you like and what you do best, then the people around you begin to support you.
Start with the simplest question: "What would I do if I was given a day that no one else would remember except me?"
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