2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If you are more for others, and for yourself - what is left … If you first raise the children to their feet, and then take care of yourself … If you put yourself on the altar of sacrifice in the hope of "thanks" … If you do not live the way you want, but expect that "Will return a hundredfold," that's what I want to tell you …
… Just remember that your children will grow up and go away. And maybe they won't even say goodbye, they won't say thank you.
I know you love them. You love them. And you do your best so that they have the best … that which you did not have.
And of course you hope that as they mature, they will comprehend and appreciate all your heroism and feat, and will reward you with gratitude and love. Although … you do it for free and gratitude is not so important … the main thing is to be loved … isn't it?
Perhaps it will be so. But, perhaps, they will not comprehend, will not appreciate. And these your twenty years of loneliness, slavery in Poland, nights not slept and blood-earned money for three rubles - will be taken for granted. Or they will answer "but it was not necessary!", "Who asked you?" Or maybe they won't call at all, won't remember, and won't be invited to the wedding. It hurts … it seems unfair … and somehow impossible … I sympathize …
… And this is not because you are a bad mother!
You are just ready to give everything to be loved …
… And someone is simply loved without all these breaks and tears, as a mother, as a wife, as a woman.
What's the matter?
If a woman doesn't love herself, men don't love her. This is not news and not bad news.
The tragedy is that in this situation, no one loves her. And the children too.
She may have a bunch of children and a bunch of husbands, but love between them does not guarantee this.
Through some super high frequencies and waves, we broadcast a program and an example of our inner attitude towards ourselves. And … they love us, they treat us, just the way we do it in relation to ourselves.
Often disappointed in a relationship and not receiving love and recognition there, a woman's thoughts rush towards "insulting, annoying … but okay, okay, okay … I will devote my whole life to children." What for? All for the same - in search of love. She herself lacks something vital. She wants someone to love her unconditionally, selflessly, truly and forever. After all, for every child, his mother is the best. And so indeed for a while …
… Until she retrains to treat herself as … to the one that is always for someone, a rag, an empty place (sometimes a screaming emptiness), a servant, an appendage of a family, a container for raising children and draining someone else's negativity. It is terrible, but a self-respecting dog or cat with character is loved more, respected, taken care of and pitied.
- "I live for children …".
- What do you mean? Do you know that sometimes you even bother them? They will grow up, their thinking, tastes, preferences will be different, more and more often you will not understand each other … are you ready for this turn of events? Living their life, you will subconsciously pretend that after some time they will repay the debt and live yours.
- "They feel good - I feel good."
- Bullshit. Unhappy people cannot rejoice and share the joy of happiness, the achievements of others, even their own children.
Therefore, if you have devoted your whole life to children and have not had time to love yourself, hurry up.
Be a good mother, but don't sacrifice yourself. Remember, you are more than a mother. They will have their own lives and concerns, and they will not be able to love you if you yourself did not have time to do it.
Do not make self-sacrifices for which you will expect a reward. Believe me, you can do without it.
Learn and try to become happy to the last, as you see it and as you want. But do not tie your happiness to the lives and destinies of others.
Love is respect and a sense of the value of a person. These categories are difficult to explain and cannot be invoked or forced through guilt or pity. The most important thing that you can do for yourself, for your children and grandchildren is to show a healthy example of self-respect and love. Go ahead before it's too late!
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