2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
6-12 Junior school age
Poles of Crisis: Hard Work - Inferiority Complex
School, courses, environment help the child to master various skills: knitting, drawing, cleaning the room … The child puffs and works. Diligence is formed.
Each skill mastered falls into the box of Competence and confidence.
If the child does not succeed, he feels inferiority, which is fueled by the school's assessment system.
Teenage years
Poles of Crisis: Ego Identity - Identity Confusion
Divided into 2 parts: 12-17 - adolescence and 17-22 - adolescence
Main tasks:
- Acquiring Ego - identity - experiencing your own uniqueness, your "I".
- Separation from parents.
22-34 Youth
Poles of Crisis: Proximity - Isolation
If there is no identity, then there is no Proximity in the relationship, but there is codependency and the possession of another. Such a relationship is painfully wounding and leads to the pole of Isolation.
34-60 Maturity
Poles of Crisis: Generation - Stagnation
Generativeness is the creative development of an acquired ego identity.
If you can't fulfill your potential - Stagnation. The person begins to exude the smell of stagnant water.
60-75 old age
Poles of Crisis: Ego Integration - Despair
It is divided into 2 parts: 60-75 - old age and from 75 - senile.
Ego integration - realizing the value of a lived life and collecting experience into a single whole.
And the feeling of the uselessness of the life lived gives rise to despair, which is fueled by the inability to correct mistakes.
As Pavka Korchagin said: “You have to live your life in such a way that it will not be excruciatingly painful for the years spent aimlessly”.
Summarizing conclusion:
When a child successfully masters skills and knowledge, his self-confidence and self-esteem grows. Relying on these acquisitions, the child climbs a new step, where an ocean of explosive affects, a hurricane of teenage rebellion and violent clashes with parents rage. The young man finds himself and learns to control himself. Leans on this plateau with two legs and pulls himself up to new heights - develops intimacy in a relationship. And then he strives for the creative realization of himself. Feels happiness, contentment, meaningfulness, and the importance of a life lived.
What the picture looks like if crises are lived in a negative way:
The complexities of previous periods are interfering with the current crisis. Early, preschool crises covered the child with shame, guilt, fear. And in elementary school, he lacks the resources to master the skill. The child feels his inferiority, incompleteness and suffocates in a sense of inferiority. He lives frustration, humiliation and withdraws into himself, avoiding hurtful communication.
With such a heavy baggage, he enters adolescence and falls into the abyss of a confused, Diffuse Identity. In the darkness he tries to understand who he is, but in vain. And rolls into the pit of Isolation. Without understanding yourself, it is impossible to be realized. And a swampy stagnation awaits him ahead. Powerlessness, pain, rage and bewilderment draw in depending on all stripes. And from there there is a direct road to the underworld of Despair and Depression of a life that did not take shape.
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