2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I continue the topic of life hacks suggested by my students of online constellation courses.
So, what kind of technique might look as simple as shelling pears but be incredibly effective?
So drum roll. Life hack number 4 is a technique for ending relationships with former partners.
As each surgeon has his own cemetery, so each person by the age of 20-30-40-50 has his own warehouse of previous relationships. Many of which remain unfinished.
Starting in kindergarten!
We remember some relationships well. How we loved, how we were sent, how we suffered, how we licked our wounds. As I remember, I will shudder.
“Eh-eh-hh! There used to be times, but now there are moments …"
We do not remember any other relationship at all. Because it was not we who suffered in this relationship, but the other person. We ran away from him, we didn’t explain ourselves, we left him confused: "Why was it possible ?!" Why remember such a shame ?! Into his unconscious. To the back closet.
"Cut to hell without waiting for peritonitis."
We do not know any other relations at all, because a person, author-demiurge-creator-screenwriter and director of these relations never approached us at one time, did not explain his feelings. It was a relationship from afar. Relationships existed in one single head, in his fantasies.
"How good it is to love the most beautiful girl in the world from afar …"
A person lives for himself and does not know that somewhere in this three-dimensional universe, in the vastness of the space-time continuum, somewhere a man is howling from loneliness and longing, whose heart is broken by your lack of understanding.
"My dear good, guess yourself!" Sema just said to Lucy: "Hello!", And Lucy in her imagination has already given birth to him three children.
My dear readers, you can continue the list of relationship options yourself.
Why is all this unfinished work dangerous?
The fact that in your bed with a partner or legal spouse you may not be alone, but with a whole camp.
Why can't you have sex on Red Square? Because they will torture you with advice!
Very often, the most unfinished relationship is with the parents.
"Do you try to do this on your right side?"
"What?! Face your mom?"
All this distracts from the experience of the essence of the present moment. It is as dangerous as watching a football match on video while sitting at the wheel of a moving car. It is fraught.
The partner of such a “tabor” looks at him and says: “Precious, why aren't you with me? And with whom are you now in your thoughts?"
And the partner in general can be understood. He met, built relationships, got married or got married in the hope of getting 100% of the partner's attention to his person. And in fact, unconsciously incomplete, he is only 412th, like a pistachio-colored Muscovite.
Is it good for him? I think no!
Where are the solutions?
The solution is to appoint your mate (O lucky one!) As a substitute partner from a previous unfinished relationship.
In words, the appointment may look quite simple and specific: "Please stay Vasya!" or even simpler (vaguely): "Please be the person with whom I have an unfinished relationship!"
In fact, the owner of a specific situation needs to remember the person in detail, put his image on the assistant. Do this with great care. Roughly how Elon Musk prepares another rocket for launch. Only, unlike Mask, we should not have returned modules.
In the case of a non-specific situation, you just need to open your eyes and ears and carefully observe the physiognomy of the appointed person, and the desired signal will flash in the folds of the lips. And you will understand, not with your brain, but with your soul, with whom you will now be talking.
And say: “Dear Vasya (options, Petya, Sveta, Sonya, Roman, Peter …), I see you. I came to talk to you. The conversation is serious. You and I have an unfinished relationship. This prevents me from building relationships with my current partner (spouse). Therefore, today I am ending my relationship with you with great gratitude to you for the experience. The experience was invaluable. I keep the experience for myself. I take all my energy out of our relationship. I return your energy to you. You are free (free) and I am free (free). Good luck! You will find yourself someone with whom you will be happy (happy), I will be glad!"
And it's all!
If these simple words of parting are said tenderly and tenderly, salting with seriousness and depth, adding a pepper of gratitude and sprinkling lightly with lemon juice of gratitude, sweetening the farewell dish with herbs of sympathy and empathy, and putting it all on a cold plate of sober reason and common sense, the partner will be able to eat it …
Previously, the Cossack women, if they refused to the boyfriend, as a sign of consolation gave him a sweet watermelon. A common practice.
Just a few words spoken to former partners with respectful intonation, and you are free! And a new fresh stream rushes into the current relationship. The only two of you are in bed. Without his camp, without her camp. You see each other like the first time. Oh wondrous, wondrous miracle! If only the bed would not crumble on the planks!
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