ABOUT CINDERELLS, KNIGHTS AND WHITE HORSES

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-07 22:18

ABOUT CINDERELLS, KNIGHTS AND WHITE HORSES

I don’t know about you, but I was always annoyed by this girlish naivety, growing into an ineradicable feminine belief in a miracle. Do not confuse it with a religious and mystical light feeling, this is not about that, this is about life and the opposite sex. Think it's only about girls? Not at all - among young people and even adults (at least according to a passport) there are a lot of such men. We can say for sure that Cinderellas are not born - they become, it is a certain way of life and thoughts. And now it is important for us to understand not so much when what went wrong there, but what to do about it.

How to determine that we have Cinderella:

• this is a fatalist person who sincerely believes in Fate, a blind chance, a special Sign, which will indicate the correctness or danger of what is happening. This belief in Providence deprives will, does not allow making decisions on his own - a person passively relies on any opportunity to avoid his own choice, what if it turns out to be incorrect?
• of course, everything should be done as if by magic - someone will certainly save in a difficult situation, the problems will be solved by themselves, the people around will be understanding and kind, and the villains will be punished and, without enduring the vileness of their villainy, they themselves will repent of what was conceived or deed. Consequently, you just have to wait, and then the necessary people and well-deserved benefits will certainly appear;

• the person is convinced of his "correctness" and that it is he who has every right to all the good that is in life … He lives with a sense of his special destiny, the exclusivity of his path and patiently waits for the one who will come who will notice and appreciate all these riches;
• patience must be rewarded! yes, I suffer, I "carry my cross", but not in vain! Like Vivian in Pretty Woman (1990), Cinderella becomes demanding and takes good attitude for granted, because what gratitude can you talk about - it should be!
• Cinderella have a hard time working in a team - it seems to them that they are not noticed, not appreciated, they have little attention. They are good performers, but in those areas where the lump-sum efforts of the whole team are not required, so they usually look for work where they will be left to themselves, but under the guidance of a strong leader who gives clear instructions;

• people with such a life strategy are always not satisfied with the love of others, they absorb it with passion, demand more and more and cannot get enough of it, because internally they themselves are incomplete, and this requires constant compensation from the outside. At the same time, they are usually not jealous, because all good things go to them by right, they do not take anything away from anyone - it was Fate who bestowed them with justice;
• life partner or partner (even just a friend) of Cinderella is always almost-Knight, about-Knight, probably-Knight or something-pro-Knights. because they see not a real person, but a radiant image ("She's like that, you just don't understand, she's like that in her soul, but no one but me knows her real", "This is his unfortunate period now, such a streak, and so he is unusually talented, but no one appreciates", - say Cinderella about their partners), which, of course, impoverish their real companion, because they do not love him, but their ideas about him and his imaginary "exploits".

Did you recognize yourself or someone from your environment? How to help yourself or someone else stop making the same mistakes and blaming life or anyone else for it, but not yourself. And you don't need to blame, you need to turn your shortcomings into advantages and use fears as energy for new achievements. So, how to overcome the disadvantages of the Cinderella life strategy:

• Cinderellas have undeniable virtues: patience, caring, hard work, the ability to see more in a situation than others, belief in the best - all this distinguishes them as reliable, loyal, sincere, albeit naive people. Awareness of your good qualities is already a lot., this is a great luggage for traveling to a new life;
• all "signs of Destiny" are invented by people for one purpose or another. Anyway, it can only be an addition to one's own position, and not replace it … Therefore, do not deprive yourself of the joy of your own victories and let your grief, but your own, and not through the fault of fate;

• you cannot allow others to exercise for you as an insignificant choice ("I'm sure this dark brown is your color." it is more useful and it is already brewed. "However, you do not like green, you do not like it, and that's it), as well as a vital choice (place of work, life partner, and so on). Listen to yourself - what you really need;
• water does not flow under a lying stone, therefore stop patiently waiting for miracles - create them yourself … This does not mean that you need to stop dreaming, not at all - dream, but in such a way that your dreams take on specific outlines. Learn to manage your own life, make plans: write down for yourself how to specifically fulfill this or that desire of yours, what steps to take, who to ask for help, what to reconsider in order to bring it closer to its implementation;
• look at yourself objectively - yes, you are different from others, but in the same way, each person is unique. To be noticed, you need to declare yourself, prove yourself in what you do better than others … If you are best at separating black beans from white beans, then consider how to make your skill unique and useful. Decide whether the process or the result is important to you?
• be grateful to others - no one in life is obliged to anyone and nothing, the world rests on goodwill, gratitude and expediency. To be grateful means to be more effective, shortening the path to the goal. Even if it turned out that the knight is not a knight, and the horse is not a horse, but Pegasus - after all, a living person is warmer, and Pegasus inspires creativity;
• learn to be more attentive to yourself, take care, pamper. Get interested in yourself for real - and the love of others will not keep you waiting, miracles will begin to happen every day, because there is nothing more interesting than a person who is full of taste, interest in life, love for it, full of ideas, plans and readiness to embody them.

Whatever your paths, believe in the best, make decisions, love your choice and your responsibility - this makes us human. And, of course, in all circumstances, do not forget that your life is only in your hands. Love and good luck to you!