2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Hello!
Again today I remembered how important it is for us to deal with our childhood. To love him, and to forgive a lot in him. According to my personal statistics, 80% of Yesena clients have problems with relatives. But grievances, the desire to live your own life, quickly move out of scandals, start your life - unfortunately, do not solve all karmic problems. The situation can be repeated not only within the framework of one incarnation, but drag on for centuries, while your wonderful soul goes through different incarnations. Most Vedists believe that when we travel to different lives, we take with us most of those who were close to us. Or they take us …
Yes, our parents often made mistakes about us. Someone strongly loved and pampered their children, someone, on the contrary, was too strict. I am unambiguously telling everyone here and now - parents need to FORGIVE! And not to run away from your father's house as soon as possible, but to try to improve relations. After all, only the power of LOD (the power of good relationships) gives a good family, personal happiness.
Forgive your parents all past grievances, all the moments where you were spanked, scolded not on business, where they forgot about you, where you were not given what you wanted …
And most importantly, the hardest and most painful thing to forgive is the feeling of guilt imposed on us by adults. "You come home dirty - I will kill you!", "Just try to step into a puddle!", "Who painted this wallpaper at home?" Cuffs, belts, spanking, corner - all these things were used to bring up Soviet children. And the children forgave and moved on, these are the parents …
Now you have grown up, and they continue to blame you: "Well, can't you buy normal shoes with your salary?", "What kind of job do you have?" etc.
If we have already forgiven the childhood and left it in childhood, then the adult sense of guilt is already serious. What can be done at this stage?
Talk. Do not shout, do not swear, do not move out, but learn to speak. The lighter the better. “Mom, accept me as I am, my mistakes are my experience!”, “Mom, look at me, I work, I dress, I help the poor, am I a bad person? accused of little things? "," Mom, let's not communicate on charges. " And of course, control yourself. If you criticize your parents, expect this in return. Start by changing yourself, stop criticizing anyone, and then criticism will leave your life as well.
I'm waiting for your question: "And what have the horses to do with it?"
I remembered an episode from my childhood this morning.
When we were little, my friend and I exchanged horses at the dacha. I had a small horse, and she has a big one. But she wanted a small one, and I wanted a big one. She wanted white and I wanted brown. And the exchange was just perfect for both of us. But when her friend's grandmother saw this substitution, she was horrified: "How so! How could you exchange a big horse for a small one? Bring everything back immediately!"
And my girlfriend turned to me and gave me back the little horse and took her, the big one.
Maybe later, she realized that her big horse is certainly better and more expensive. But the child had to go through this process himself. And when he would later say to his grandmother: "Baba, I changed my horse in vain," grandmother would answer: "This is your lesson, it's good that you have mastered it and learned to make adult decisions."
And the child had only a feeling of guilt in the subcortex that she did something terrible, although there was nothing terrible about it. Therefore, allow your children to make mistakes and realize them on their own, and forgive your parents for not giving you such an opportunity.
Be happy, your Ksenia!
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