Abortion. Is Healing Possible?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Abortion. Is Healing Possible?

"Cleansed the body - cleanse the soul."

In vk some years ago there was such a group in which information about abortions was collected, and the ability to work them out using systemic constellations.

When women with such trauma or on the verge of making a decision appeared in my circle, I, with a sense of accomplishment, poisoned them on the saving page, from time to time even filling it with thematic content.

This active creativity on the topic of abortion fell on the period of my pregnancy and the first years of GW. I still see every conceived life as a miracle. But during that period, I especially felt the inevitability of the life-death cycle, I lived with my body the realization: life wants to continue at any cost.

In addition, of all types of psychotherapy, it is constellations that I see as the most visual, and therefore the fastest method for understanding.

Speed is essential when it comes to making decisions of this kind.

At some point, the page disappeared.

Elena Tishchenko vk @ elenasymbolon, the psychotherapist who led this group and led the reception of those women, explained her position as follows: it is not good to poke a person's nose into a problem that he did not realize the presence of.

On the one hand, there was a flow of people on this topic. On the other hand, a clear understanding came to me: "do not do good."

I write more about this here:

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Since then, I only help if asked.

To write about abortion in public I was prompted by a case from practice. Part of my work is in the healing of women's health and psyche.

Once again, I was faced with the fact that women's health and children have problems of "unknown" etiology. When a bunch of examinations are done, everything is normal, and health and vitality literally slip through our fingers.

I see a woman's misunderstanding of the mechanism, the relationship.

When the focus is on survival and solving an acute health problem, not to dig into the causes or long-term psychotherapy.

The first to manifest persistent symptoms in the child, there is no name for the disease, the doctors shrug their shoulders, the child becomes worse, further symptoms appear in the female part of the mother. New children do not linger in the mother's body.

Symptoms turn off health so that there is no resource to take care of the born child. Vicious circle.

Question: "What other examinations can I do? What's going on?"

I'm waiting. There is no point in piling up my truth, I was not invited for this, but the session still stirred up something.

I remember, it burst through.

"Can an abortion have such consequences? I know, I read, it is harmful, dangerous, etc. But how exactly does it work and what to do about it? Children, what have to do with it?"

… - How can I explain to you what the children have to do with it? It's not even about karma-crime-punishment …

At that moment, images went to me. It seems to me that the mechanism is most effectively understood in images. I will pass them on. Yes, these stories are not public, they are in the shadows, there they belong. Therefore, I deliberately do not give names and other details.

But I suddenly wanted the mechanics of the consequences of abortion to be understandable to people. Those who doubt the decision. For those who do not know where to start, how to close.

Yes. Sometimes they turn to me to cover losses. We have tools in our circle of women: psychotherapy, deep body therapy and ritual practices.

So that's it. Abortion is also a loss. You also need to work with her. But it is impossible to close such a loss directly.

To make it clear. Imagine a person walking down the road. Shoe boots. Suddenly he realizes that they are heavy, feels them as shackles. Tries to take it off. In vain.

Decides to saw off his feet. So as not to get in the way of heavy boots. (Termination of pregnancy is exactly the same violation of the integrity of the body, a single organism-system-mother-child).

Do you understand what's going on next? Wears an elegant dress. Goes on. For example, to the ball. Smiles. Dancing. Nobody sees legs under a ball gown. Does this mean that everything is all right?

This is the case when the cutting off of some part brings the destruction of the entire system.

The blood flows into the ground. Where the dead have gone. There is nothing more to write horizontally. There is nothing more to give to a new branch. The branch turns into a stump, the born child - into a crutch. That is why the health of the WHOLE family system is leaking out.

Is there a way out? How to relieve pain? How to turn your attention and your love to your loved ones if there is no resource?

How to close this thing, from whom to beg forgiveness? I will disappoint. There is no magic pill. There is no magic prayer. New legs won't grow. Nobody will save.

But there is good news as well. You can do something yourself.

The first is to find that there are no legs, and there is nothing to rely on.

Suspend dancing. Cry over the loss. Realize the value of loss as part of it.

Find wounds, bandage. Carefully. Stop the bleeding.

Accumulate strength.

Here you can already ask for professional help and take the path of gaining your integrity.

Turn on and fill the heart.

And start slowly, one step at a time, to love. Those who are near. Those who depend on your love.

And this will already be a story about your personal jewelry daily work.