2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
It is not customary to talk about this, they usually keep silent about it, or share it with those closest to them, or in consultation with a psychologist.
This topic is still taboo in our society, and is often condemned by society. Women are afraid of condemnation; therefore, silence becomes a protection and a prison at the same time for the woman herself.
This could be a necessary measure (when, for medical reasons, a woman cannot bear a child).
It was the choice of a woman because of her unwillingness to have a child, and the choice of a woman as a forced measure due to the circumstances of life, but with a desire to have a child.
But whatever the scenario, the woman was aware of her actions in the moment or realized them later, the trauma from the feelings that a woman encounters after an abortion overtakes a woman sooner or later.
What will help to cope with feelings after an abortion.
Realize your right to control your body. A woman has the right to simply make a choice, and this is a choice in her favor. Just take it for granted - a woman has the right not to want a child and have an abortion, she has the right to be unprepared for a child and refuse this opportunity now.
This will not mean that the woman is bad, and now she must bear the labels of condemnation of society. This will not characterize a woman in any way. It's just a fact - the fact of abortion as an event. Yes, difficult in all plans, but it is just a fact and experience.
The first important step - to admit what happened. Yes, it happened, yes, it happened. You should not pretend that nothing happened, sooner or later feelings will still overtake them, and it is better to live them right away and let them go than leave the time bomb that fired at no one knows when.
Second phase - to realize that it happened, it just happened. Recognize that this is an experience, an experience that you have chosen to go through. Just experience and nothing more, without coloring, which is bad.
Stage three - the spiritual level of awareness. It is the spiritual level at which a woman accepts not only her right to do this, but also the right of the soul that chose her not to incarnate on Earth. People on a spiritual level know that children choose their parents to go through life with specific tasks. But the soul can choose to go through such an experience, choosing a woman who will eventually take such a step. It is not only a woman's choice, but also a child's choice to go through such an experience.
Fourth stage - it is important for a woman to realize that she has a child. An aborted child is also a child (no matter how long the abortion was made). This recognition will give the fact, and not the denial of the fact, and then the feeling of guilt that comes after the denial. The feeling of guilt that a woman faces after an abortion can arise both in front of the child and in front of herself, it happens that before God or the father of the child.
Guilt doesn't exist. All there is is simply our experience. You just went through the experience as it is, that's it. It is important to switch from a sense of guilt, to a desire to help yourself and recover, to recover for yourself, in order to live on.
If the period of mourning is important, then set it yourself, how long it will last, determine the time frame. If no deadline is set, it is very easy to go into long suffering. And suffering affects your health, and therefore the quality of your future life.
The main thing is to remember no matter what events occur in our life - we all have the right to a happy life further. You don't have to go into suffering, grief, and despondency for the rest of your life. This is not an obligatory attribute of our life - it is just that society has accepted standards that after certain events one must suffer for a long time. Take this burden off yourself - suffering doesn't have to happen in your life. And it is imperative to help yourself recover from any shock.
Seek help from a psychologist.
Seek help from those who think can help you.
Do not be silent and do not drive yourself into the prison of your own indifference to yourself. Look for ways to talk about what happened, just talk. As a rule, a woman after an abortion does not need advice, it is important for her to talk about it and not be alone with her feelings.
Be careful with yourself, whatever happens in your life.
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