2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The crow is silent for the second day. There is no scandal around. Continuous peace and quiet. She sits alone, no one clings to her.
And so the unfortunate Crow undertook to pluck her own feathers. Like, @@@ me such stress! And then she croaked only what needs to be replaced by "pi" and "piiiiiii …".
Now imagine that Crow comes to therapy with a request to stop swearing. Does she want? Are you ready to sacrifice the attention of animals? Let it be negative, but attention. Is she ready to part with the abuse? Or is it the desire of other animals?
Takeaway: Thoughtfully determine the ultimate goal of your request to the therapist and consider the mandatory rejection of secondary benefits.
Was Raven's aim (to be meek) worth her refusal to use foul language? It seems that Raven was happy with everything.
The request "change my husband's behavior" is from the same opera. The husband seems to be happy with everything, since it was not he who turned to a specialist.
I want to change the request, because they do not like me for who I am - from the same opera. Do you want others to like it? The motivation for change is external, not internal. It looks like a raven stimulus (fear of being left without feathers).
The exact query determines the outcome of the therapy. Precise queries are mainly about ridding yourself of unwanted emotions or unwanted behavior. Example: "I am afraid to fly an airplane, and it bothers me in my life." Request: "I want to fly with comfort, I have motivation for this, because the current state of affairs strains me."
Desirable (positive) changes require a clear understanding of your desired future state (otherwise how will you know that you are "healed?") And the value of this new state for yourself (not for other people).
Experts help clarify the request. Sometimes after that I "release" a person who understood that everything is fine, he does not need a specialist, and maybe he does not have problems.
If the request is not clear
Intrapersonal conflict. It so happens that it is local. Some part of you wants to "go", the second wants to "stay at home." And what you want more - only the wind knows about it. Decision-making. It's a tricky question, especially when reason is the argument for or against.
What does your body and soul want, as opposed to your mind? This is not difficult to see, because you do not have time to track your desire yet, as something like that rises inside you, expands your chest, pricks your ass with an awl, kindles pioneer fires in the same place and shoves it under the ninth rib.
Irrational. It is illogical. Unpredictable. Want. And the point. Your personal "nail" does not allow you to make a mistake, and you "drive" or "sit at home" quite naturally. If, of course, you listen to yourself.
If you don't listen, then your subconscious mind is silent. As if silent. It “is silent” for the time being, until it gets tired of knocking on your head, and rises as a huge Shadow from its depths and closes its eyes with red “curtains” of rage with a cry: “As long as you can ride on me!” hysteria, tears and resentment.
A breakthrough in the content of the unconscious is what affect is called. It's totally powerful. Fearfully. Creepy. And … cleansing.
The goal of Jungian therapy is to "reconcile" the Ego and the Shadow. K. G. Jung talks about integrating these parts of the personality and thus gaining the Self.
Such therapy - to eliminate the "non-obvious" internal conflict of a person, can be carried out without request, in the format of non-directed therapy (personality analysis).
The request here, when solving the primordial conflict, is understandably vague and not entirely specific. This is about the same thing: "spiritual growth", "development", "self-knowledge." And, of course, what the request is, this is the answer. The analysis result can be unexpected and interesting. Knowing yourself. For many, it is very attractive and exciting. Useful, beneficial and effective. But not for everyone, of course, we are all different.
For this kind of analysis, you can use Jung's "Active Imagination" method. It is analogous to being immersed in hypnosis, with different goals, different terms, and more metaphorically.
The difference between active imagination and dreaming in reality is an indispensable factor in the participation of the "dreamer" in the moral conflict of the participants in his "dream". This requires an analyst.
At the end of the immersion - understanding the causes of the disturbing situation and personal conclusions. Another step towards the integration of the Ego and the Shadow. The process, I think, is lifelong, if you go "to the end."
In such a process, those requests may appear, with which it is possible to work pointwise and productively, with a specific result.
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