All Men Are Goats

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

All men are goats

How painful it is - every time after a date to be disappointed in your chosen one, because he is so similar to the previous one, and he to the first, and all together they hurt you very much. And how can you believe that the next one will not turn out to be the same asshole as the previous ones? It is not for nothing that the phrase “all men are goats” is passed from mother to daughter, as if memorizing her will protect her from mental wounds.

Everyone who believes in this statement, and propagandizes it in tears under the second bottle of Proseco, believes in his soul that one day there will be someone who will come into her life unexpectedly and how he refutes this belief will not seem like a little! But a year or two goes by, and the Universe blatantly ignores your requests and further sends you the notorious "goats". What's the matter?

So, remember, when was the first time you introduced this phrase into your consciousness? Perhaps, in films and books, you have read sentimental stories of tragic love? Or maybe you did hear such a conviction from your mother, whom your father abandoned, or from a friend whom you wanted to imitate? Or maybe you didn’t have a good relationship: I found time after time clearly problematic guys, or those who don’t pay attention to you. And after a couple of months of love suffering, you came to a logical conclusion, like Ohm's law, that men are just goats, that's why you don't get along with them. And they only want sex, and I'm not like that, so they run away.

What happens next? This belief settles in your head firmly, you do not change your behavior with guys and continue to attract only goats into your life. Even if by chance you meet a good guy who does not fit into the standard picture of an "asshole", then you will either not show interest in him at all, or unconsciously ruin your relationship with him in the name of believing in your conviction.

What if it's not true? Then it turns out that you have to admit for yourself that the problem may be in you, that perhaps you yourself do not attract those you like, perhaps you do not know how to build healthy and happy relationships. And that, perhaps, you cannot attract such guys with anything, except for sex, that's what they expect from you. But this is not profitable, so you continue to blame your poor partners for all the blame for the destroyed castles in the air and unborn children for whom you have already chosen a name.

Pay attention to those who pay attention to you. Learn not to dive into the pool with your head piling on the guy on the way with a lot of expectations. Let yourself just live without expecting anything from the relationship, enjoy the very process of communication. Find the relationship between all your relationships, perhaps you will find a certain scenario there, according to which you always choose a partner in the same way and build contact. You need to understand why you do it this way and not otherwise, and how you can change your strategy.

If in your family there is also a moment when the father leaves the family for a younger / beautiful / interesting woman, then there is a risk that you will unconsciously try not to become this young / beautiful / interesting woman. Think about what you are defending with each of your beliefs, what is behind this? Could it be fears? This is the path to self-development and happiness. Love to all.