2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Analyzing her scenario family vectors with Edith, we agreed to the conclusion: her mother's oncology is directly related to the exhausted strategic role. A position that Edith (following her much revered mother) actively promotes in her own story too. And in cases of excessive manifestation, as you know, - exclusively "on his own head."
That is why it is so important to be aware of the accepted generic "inheritance" - to comprehend and put into psychological work.
Her mother's story
Chapter 1. Hero number 1. Trip to the rescue. Magadan
Upon reaching the age of 18, young Adele (unlike many other girls) did not enter a prestigious educational institution and did not jump out more fortunately to marry - she, as the eldest, adult daughter of the family, went to save a large parental family, balancing on the brink of extreme survival.
The wages in the north were high. Adele settled in an uncomfortable, dirty hostel, ate poorly and cheaply, suffered from frequent invasions of rodents, suffered desperately from many inconveniences, but regularly sent a decent amount of money to her parents. Her salary was enough not only for hearty meals for the youngest children in the family, but also for the construction of a large and comfortable house in her parental homeland.
So Adele helped her parents to significantly raise six children in the family. This ministry took almost 11 years …
Chapter 2. Heroism number 2. Love for salvation. Marriage with a convicted person
It was there, in a cold and harsh land, that Adele met the love of her life - a former prisoner living in a settlement - two-meter high Yan, with a broken psyche and broken moral standards. But the love that arose between these two was truly fantastic. Edith talked about it in a whisper, with lyrical romanticism … At the same time, Adele in this marriage awaited a myriad of trials. Yang drank, was unrestrained, and incapable of warm, lasting relationships. It took a lot of time for the loving and meek Adele to soften the character of a difficult spouse and earn his unconditional trust, as well as strengthen his confidence in his abilities and a possible good future. With Adeline, Ian began to slowly rise, reaching significant heights in business …
Chapter 3. Hero number 3. Parenting to the rescue. Raising a stepdaughter
The ordeal of our devout heroine did not end there. In just a well-established, already good life (the common daughter Edith was growing up in the married family) fate brought another child - the eldest daughter of Yan from a youthful marriage - Yanina. 14-year-old Yana Yang took himself away from an unreliable mother who drank himself to death. The child was difficult. Noisy, dubious companies were frequenting the house. Parents who came home from work with little Edith, after kindergarten, were knocked off the doorstep by a cigarette smog accumulated during the day. Yanina was jealous of her father, quarreled with her stepmother and was often indiscriminately rude. Little Edith mostly did not touch - she ignored it, as if her sister was not there. How much labor it cost the Great Martyr Adele to warm the embittered child, to accustom her to the family, to the house, to learn and finally marry her - it is difficult to imagine. Subsequently, Yanina practically did not maintain relations with relatives - she could not really warm up and become an integral part of her family.
Heroism 4. Saving move. Transfer of the child to a promising place
By the time of the fourth stage of this story, the honors pupil Edith graduated from high school. Loving parents decided to move to Moscow, thus providing their daughter with the best future prospects. Father and mother sold the accumulated property and set off to conquer Moscow and the Moscow region. A large, solid cottage was purchased in the countryside, Edith was arranged for a paid course at Moscow State University, and the family opened up another - an even, successful, cloudless, happy life. The mother lived by the successes of her daughter - she encouraged, inspired and inspired. But in the last year of Edith's studies at the university, trouble suddenly knocked on her house: Adele was belatedly diagnosed with oncology - a progressive breast cancer in the final stage. But only now, in these current wonderful years, I would live and rejoice - everything is so exceptionally good. But no, the joy in Adeline's story, unfortunately, did not last long …
Unfolding her mother's story, Edith and I literally in chorus stated the following, obvious, semantic fact: apparently, Adeline “nursed” all her relatives - one by one - from younger brothers and sisters to her beloved Edith, and, having fulfilled her own, truly heroic mission, allowed fate to take itself out of the game in such a symbolic way. All the heights of this outstanding woman were conquered, all her victories were won, all loved ones were saved, and the meanings of the heroic mission are absolutely exhausted - in the further life continuation (with a similar internal strategy) it seemed as if there was no more meaning …
For Edith, her mother's story (in addition to numerous high, positive meanings) is filled with one special, informative the value of the laid down scenario vector - "do not flirt with heroism", do not go to the rescue, do not breathe one service - just live …
/ The author of this publication is a professional psychologist Alena Viktorovna Blishchenko. /
Recommended:
💥 How Do They Take A Husband Out Of The Family? 💥 Family Psychologist Zberovsky Will Tell All The Tricks And Tricks Of The Mistresses
Step 1. Sex leaves the family for a mistress. Since the real average number of sexual contacts that suit an ordinary person is three to four a week, personal meetings of lovers should take place at least three times a week and always be accompanied by intimacy.
How To Live Life To The Fullest And Find Inner Harmony
Lecture by Alfried Langle, Doctor of Medicine and Psychology, on the practical use of existential analysis to gain an inner core, confidence, and meaningful existence. “Life is nothing life is an opportunity to do something " V.
HOW TO LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE AND NOT ANOTHER LIFE Or About TRUE AND IMPLIED VALUES
In our society, there are clearly defined patterns and rules by which you “need” to live and which you “need” to comply with. From childhood we are told what we should be like when we grow up, they often decide what we should do, which university to enter, what kind of chosen one they see next to us, there is a generally accepted age at which it is "
The Author's Strategy For Reconciling Two Principles - "inner Parent" And "inner Child"
The problematic of a huge number of psychological inquiries is often as follows … Client: a) did not show (did not investigate, does not know) himself-present (that is, the inner "child"); b) did not update (did not work, did not polish) the platform of the internal "
6 Consequences Of Parental Manipulation For A Person And His Life
The manipulations are different, but today we will talk about those that reduce the effectiveness of adulthood. What does it mean? In a person, his intrinsic value, deep self is destroyed A person has a feeling that he is not able to influence his life and is at the mercy of some destructive forces (for example, "
