2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The people around do whatever they want to avoid being disappointed, or, worse for my taste, trying not to disappoint others. I wanted to speculate a little about the first option.
Over time, it becomes more and more obvious to me that if it were not for disappointment (in people, relationships, work, hobbies, the world around me in general), I would simply lose the ability to see and touch reality. And even more so, I could not find new depth and new facets of the object, in relation to which I experienced this disappointment. Accordingly, the inertia of my movements (in a broad sense) would be limited to one vicious circle, in which I would constantly hit the same wall.
The word "disillusion" literally means "release from illusion."
I can swim a lot and for a long time in my fantasies and expectations, constantly facing an unfair world, complaining about it. You can hold on to the fragile branch called "hope" for a long time, anticipating that someday the situation will change: the partner will fall in love again and return, parents will finally stop judging and support, they will recognize and improve at work …
No, it won't come back. No, they won't. No, they don't.
It's hard, unpleasant, annoying, I understand …
Especially painful is this realization hitting strong, unbending men. It's better to break your neck in an attempt to achieve your goal than to honestly admit your powerlessness here.
This is why facing disappointment becomes so healing for me. When, throwing back my imaginary omnipotence (at this moment, often awake uncomfortable and so cleverly avoided pain, bitterness, rage), invented castles collapse and beautiful pictures of the future burn with a blue flame … power is born, albeit not huge, but quite limited, but quite tangible, which I can use to build a REAL, my life.
I'm not trying to say that all your efforts are in vain, no. I want to say that when, after 1000 unsuccessful attempts to achieve what you want, you are trying with your last bit of strength to find resources again and make another call …
Maybe you should still pay attention to the obvious realities and slightly change the method and angle of your excavation?.. Or maybe even spit into this hole and start something new? In most cases, this turns into a find of fresh strength and filling inspiration, albeit on a new, different path.
Finally spare your forehead and the wall …
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