2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The first case.
A young family is at the reception. They are under twenty. The story is simple: the husband did not pay attention, there was a family friend who had long sought the location of the young wife and to whom she reciprocated. Just once. The time that my husband quickly found out about. Adultery was the beginning and the main cause of the discord, exacerbated by the chain of subsequent events. Among them were, for example, the following: a young wife went with her friends to a bar, and the guys got hooked there, and this big company met face to face with her husband's colleagues; I was visiting, met a pleasant companion, talked until morning, the phone sat down. And all this in a couple of months.
Both want to keep the family, because they have a child. This is spoken about after a long, long showdown, in response to my question, as something that does not have a special meaning in their life.
- How old is he? (once again I estimate the age of the visitors)
- (indifferent) Five months.
Pause.
- And who is he with now?
- With my mom.
After the appointment, I go to the administrator. Does she remember who and how recorded today's visitors? Of course he remembers! The girl's mother called, for a long, long time told that the young were quarreling, and, of course, she could talk herself, but will they listen to her? Yes, it was the same woman who sits by the crib, rocks the baby at night, feeds him from a bottle, freeing young parents from tiresome troubles, giving them the opportunity to rest.
On the way home, I remembered the days when my child was a baby. How I lay at night and looked at his little face in the twilight, long eyelashes trembling in a dream, a tiny nose (daddy!), Listened to puffing and funny smacking. And I could not sleep because of happiness and tenderness … Motherhood is not only worries.
The second story could be a continuation of the first. It is short and capacious. This is dad's story:
- When the little one was born, the mother-in-law came to us. To help. And when she left, we felt so confused, so helpless, we didn't know what to do with him at all.
The parents did not know what to do with their own baby. And children feel everything: the atmosphere of fear, and disturbing notes in the voice, and the uncertainty of your movements …
These stories are not about the fact that there is no need to help a family with a newborn, although it may happen that way. These are stories about a sense of proportion, rationality and the place of each in the life of a family. These stories are about the fact that even in such a noble cause as helping, you need to be able to stop in time. It seemed to these grandmothers that they were doing good. Perhaps they helped through force, through their own sore back, in spite of fatigue and "pressure". Was their sacrifice so necessary, or turned into a disservice?
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