2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In our life, everything happens in exactly the way our subconscious “tells” us. Conscious thinking resorts to logic, while the subconscious mind deals with feelings.
If you do not control the subconscious, it controls you, even if you think it is not.))
The subconscious is your inner voice, which you hear, listen to, and act in accordance with what it tells you all the time.
Internal dialogue is encoded in beliefs, short and succinct phrases that evoke feelings and bodily reactions.
Beliefs are formed in childhood, usually up to 7-9 years old, which is why in our conscious life we do not remember and do not hear which of them become toxic for us. BUT the result is obtained exactly in accordance with the internal settings!
For example, one of my clients from childhood wanted to get an education as a psychologist, but her parents told her that this lesson would not make money (“what a frivolous occupation”). She accepted this belief as true, and, as a result, having already received an education “by advice”, she changed several organizations, BUT she did not find satisfaction in her work, did not get the desired result.
Diagnose yourself if you have a nagging sense of meaninglessness or worthlessness, aimlessness when you do what you love. Perhaps when you try to do what you love, you hear inside yourself (and even remember the situation when it happened) the voice of mom, dad, grandmother, grandfather:
What are you doing (painting / singing / messing around again)? (clean up toys / read a book). Such reactions of close people form the belief THAT I AM DOING IS NOT VALUABLE / USELESS / SENSE
Busy again with nonsense? Better do something useful, do useful things! Forms a negative belief I SHOULD DO GOOD / BE GOOD
Don't make a noise, you have to be quiet! Are you shouting / crying / laughing out loud again? Forms a negative belief DO NOT EXPRESS YOURSELF, DO NOT BE BRIGHT, MY NEEDS / DESIRES ARE NOT NECESSARY, NOT IMPORTANT, THE WISHES OF OTHERS ARE MORE IMPORTANT THAN MY
But look, when you MUST be beneficial and do what is USELESS / UNRELEVANT, and at the same time forbid yourself to feel your needs - you find yourself in a cycle that brings neither satisfaction, nor money, nor the desired result. Hence the state that you are spinning like a squirrel in a wheel, perhaps even doing a lot of things and actions, but with such settings, running in a circle is guaranteed to you.
ABILITY TO CHANGE SETTINGS IS THE KEY TO EVERYTHING
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