2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Metamorphoses of love and relationships in a narcissistic society.
Feelings are out of fashion these days. Emotional poverty and the desire to live without problems give rise to a new problem in human relations. - separates people. We are all kind of digitized a little, losing the main thing that distinguishes a person from a machine - the ability to feel and experience.
The change of concepts - from "love" to "relationships" - is part of a global cultural process, which many researchers call a "therapeutic turn" - that is, the triumph of primitivism, "folk" psychology in both private and public life.
This tendency to simplify complex emotional and mental processes of a person gives rise to a new trend, a new problem of modern reality - the digitization of a person by ridding him of psycho-traumatic feelings and experiences.
This simplified understanding of “healthy living” involves working on oneself, during which the individual discovers his true emotions, explores them and recognizes their meaning, and then learns to manage them,”explains Yulia Lerner, sociologist and professor at Ben Gurion University in Israel.
In this model, trauma plays the role of original sin in personal history: it is inevitable, everyone is marked by it - and the meaning of life lies in its continuous and progressive overcoming.
In the modern world, the fashion for a healthy lifestyle has not bypassed psychology either, taking the obsessive form of the desire to build "healthy relationships".
Relationships WITHOUT tension (in modern fashionable discourse, this is called without trauma), relationships that do not reproduce trauma become evidence of personal success, a guarantee of a life that was not lived in vain.
Love and emotional love experiences, mental stress are no longer seen as something inherent in human life and, moreover, making it human. And even on the contrary, it is believed that suffering in love carries a pathology from which you need to get rid of.
Such is the sterilization of the relationship, without the "microbe" of love feelings.
Reimagining love in terms of whether it fits into the pattern of "healthy relationships" is happening everywhere.
It has become a common place to solve personal problems in public places on the Internet.
The public flogging, which is arranged by the "analysand" on various Internet resources by people arguing about relationships, is designed to "heal" his personality and teach him (or her) to build correct - that is, painless and beneficial for himself - relationships.
The cult of "healthy relationships" becomes an obsession and unhealthy habit, leading to everyone's obsession with their trauma and ways to overcome it. And in the end, it makes people disconnected, lonely and emotionally sterile - incapable of feelings of deep affection and sincere love.
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